Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Who is more to blame in having an affair
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am |
Who is more to blame in having an affair
- The "other" woman/man
- The one who is in a relationship
- Both parties involved are equally responsible
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Leticia
Did you not just say, I don't condone cheating- and yet you still sleep with other people's husbands! You are a walking contradiction
edite to add- this message was not directed at Yarnlover, I posted to the wrong person
Edited 9/9/2004 1:48 pm ET ET by skeehn2000
As some of you know, I gave up long ago. I got tired of sleeping on the edge of the bed. Whenever I brushed up against my wife in the middle of the night, I was told "don't touch me." When I came home from a difficult day at work, and really needed a hug, she was more concerned about doing the kids' homework for them (they were "A" students) or with the dinner burning. All I asked for was a quick hug, not an hour in the sack. (By the way, she wanted to be a stay at home mother, and my income permitted her to do so.) It was her choice that we could only do things as a family, never she and I as a couple. Watching television meant everybody in the master bedroom, even when it was very late and I had to get up early the next morning. She actually encouraged the kids to be in the master bedroom at any time of the day or night. Sex (and it was no longer making love) become once in a while on Saturday mornings - just stick it in and get it over with - and don't make too much noise - you might wake the kids.
It would have been quite different if she had said that she was "not in the mood" and just wanted to cuddle and at least pretended she was interested.
Even her close relatives advised me that I needed a girlfriend - it was that obvious to them.
I consider the marriage vows to have been broken long ago - by her.
Because of the emotional stress over the years, I doubt that I will ever be able to have a physical relationship with another woman. AND I will definitely never have any type of sexual contact with my wife again.
Notgettingany's post proves... nothing really. I read his post, and a lot of it I understood and can relate to. However, (from Tish's post) I didn't read any faulty things about himself in that post. I did cheat once, not a sneak type cheat, but I broke our vows first without a doubt. Remember if you are going to use the term (break vows) most vows
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