Who is more to blame in having an affair

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Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am

Who is more to blame in having an affair



  • The "other" woman/man
  • The one who is in a relationship
  • Both parties involved are equally responsible


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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 3:44pm

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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 5:38pm
Yep yep, I've heard those sayings too, lol. However, for those who actually feel that the betrayed spouse is to blame, my was why cheat and stay as opposed to why not move on to someone you DO want to be with instead? was my question.

In NO WAY am I saying shame on anyone by asking that, I'm just curious as to why persons choose to stay in the form of a cheater rather than move on and be happier anyway. Hope that makes sense now.

Of course I've heard the excuse on top of others as well. Whether I agree to it or not, my question was directed to those who actually support the notion of staying and cheating. I appreciate the by others, but am more interested in hearing from the horses' mouths if thats not too personal, lol. Thanks again for all the replies everybody, look forward to learning more cause I'm really that curious.

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 5:33pm

Para, I wrote an answer to your question yesterday, edited it and lost it.

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 12:13am
Ooooooh no no no no no, LOL!, not YOU, yas. :)

I'm referring to those who 'constantly' blame other spouses, . I might have gotten it wrong, but some appeared to blame allll relationships on the betrayed ones and I was just asking why they themselves don't condone just moving on rather than sticking around and cheating. I remember your situation, don't worry. If you feel like educating us from your point of view, then I'll fend off the "branders" for ya, LOL! But I still don't recall you blaming all relationships on the betrayed spouse though, so you weren't the one I was necessarily referring to when asking. Make any sense?

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