Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Who is more to blame in having an affair
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am |
Who is more to blame in having an affair
- The "other" woman/man
- The one who is in a relationship
- Both parties involved are equally responsible
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because if it wasn't me, it would be someone else? Sure, that's probably true. However, do I think so little of myself that I would use that excuse? It might as well be me as some other bimbo?
Sorry, but I'd rather it be someone else who doesn't have any self respect.
If liking sex, and having sex with someone you feel is compatible with, makes you a bimbo, Yeah that is what I am I guess. I don't think it is really that bad a thing, to be honest. I don't think safe sex is a bad thing between two adults.
I really don't think it is a matter of self respect either, I like sex I don't think I'm disrespecting myself by having it.
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> I also think if it were you who it happened to, you would be singing a different tune. > Why else would you keep mentioning your ace in the hole to keep your FWB away from the > friend that was flirting with him.
I don't think it's the same situation, and in a way this goes to my point. Just because my bf likes to have sex with another woman once in a while, that's not cheating -- he isn't trying to hide it. It would just be ridiculous to be mad at her -- she hasn't done anything to me ... she did not wedge her way into our relationship; AFAIK she knew him before I did. Nor have I ever felt a desire to call her up and gang up on my bf. I just don't think he has done anything wrong. There have been no lies told. It's not illegal, immoral or fattening: he just likes to cum, and he enjoys being around women, and that's that! I'm not sure under what moral theory I could deny him what he honestly likes, at this point. I find it hard to be mad or sad about it. It sounds wierder than it is. Nonetheless, this is admittedly different than a marriage, because we have not gotten to the "commitment" point (... _I'm_ committed but that doesn't mean he is yet).
Also, if the cheater is disrespecting his/her partner, do you imagine he/she has ANY respect for the one on the side? Respect doesn't enter into it....a "quickie romp" is all that they're looking for.
Some day, when you're married, or in a relationship, and you find out your partner has been cheating, come back and tell us how you feel THEN. I'm sure you'll be happy to know that the 3rd party meant you no disrespect, and that will make it all okay!
Tish,
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