Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Who is more to blame in having an affair
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am |
Who is more to blame in having an affair
- The "other" woman/man
- The one who is in a relationship
- Both parties involved are equally responsible
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I'm more on the side of the "blame" question myself. Regardless of whether she knew the culprit or not, if I had a lady in my life who chose to cheat for whatever reason, then I'd STILL uncontrollably fool myself into blaming the party involved unless that other party didn't know she was hitched. Thats the emotional side in me that just can't be snuffed out.
Speaking from the sane wisdom regarding who is to blame for the affair...I just really don't get into convincing myself that it matters I guess. If it happens, then both need to be dealt with regardless. Now this of course is in regards to my thoughts of committed relationships that are NOT open. It really is interesting to see the different viewpoints on this subject. In fact...
...NO, I personally do NOT consider different views on this as being anti-societal, for lack of better term. Different lifestyles that may even conflict with long-standing morals in our society may simply be a sign of the times changing , so in today's world it really is too difficult in my opinion to determine anymore what is a sign of change and a sign of being anti-moral or anti-society. The morals many of us uphold are not the cornerstone of society's views anymore like they use to be...so thats part of the changing ways that we're still living with more and more everyday. Not saying I accept it, but its just an observation.
Needlesstosay, for those in this world who do not see anything wrong with open relationships, emphasis on the word , then my only message to them would be to STAY AWAY from my wife...for you own safety of course...LOL!!! SERIOUSLY!!!
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I really don't think that makes me a sociopath. The other poster has never done it, just telling you how she thinks she'd feel about it if she did, and you're calling her a sociopath. Well, I have done it, and I thoroughly enjoyed it and don't feel that I'm a Bad Person because of it.
Some men I have been with who have been married have wives that no longer have sex with them. They really should just get a divorce, but they don't. $$$ no doubt.
The person they choose to have an affair with ... they don't really care about EITHER married partner. They don't care at all. They want and are going to get their needs met, one way or another.
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