Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Who is more to blame in having an affair
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am |
Who is more to blame in having an affair
- The "other" woman/man
- The one who is in a relationship
- Both parties involved are equally responsible
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I disagree with you on that.
I wasn't lecturing,
I agree with most of your statement, I feel like there are more people who cheat just to cheat than you seem to think, but for the most part I agree. I do have a question however. You made a commit about (the married men you've been with) Do you look for married men?
Some men I have been with who have been married have wives that no longer have sex with them. They really should just get a divorce, but they don't. $$$ no doubt.
who_reallyknows
All I know is the majority of men DO seek sex outside their marriages -- even if it's just a couple times, several times, or just once. They cannot seem to resist the urge.
Some men are just plain out horny and want to get laid really, really well and can't at home. So ....... that does not make them dishonest people in every area of their life? No. Sure, there are some scumbags out there who are dishonest and disloyal in everything they do, but most are just guys who can't get any further along in their sex life with their wife and want to take it up a couple notches. That is the truth. Straight from the horses mouth, so to speak, lol.
I, sadly but admitedly, was one of those wives. Not that I never had sex with dh but, it was much more rare than he liked. Our relationship was (and is) great outside the bedroom.
I know you may feel that it is niave of me but he did not have an affair during that time. He found ways to pleasure himself when my libido was low. He was patient and understanding. He knew that it was not my intention to neglect his sexual needs. We talked, joked and even cried about it often.
Not getting your sexual needs fullfiled is NOT an excuse for having an affair. When desires clash communication is needed more than sex!
Danielle
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No Danielle, you are not niave for "knowing" your husband didn't have an affair during that time.
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