Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Who is more to blame in having an affair
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am |
Who is more to blame in having an affair
- The "other" woman/man
- The one who is in a relationship
- Both parties involved are equally responsible
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Leticia
<<1) Really in love with their wife and trying to save their marriage
#1 is what I've been saying or trying to say
I would never tolerate cheating whether it be a one-night-stand or a full-blown affair. My SO is fully aware of my stance on the issue, and understands that if he makes that choice, he loses me. It wouldn't matter if we've been together for two or thirty years, it would be over. If having sex with someone else is more valuable to him than I am, then that really doesn't say much about how he feels about me.
People who cheat and deceive their SO's are stealing their SO's free will. They're so selfish that they not only want the benefits of the affair, but they want the benefits of their other life without any regard for how their SO might make different choices if they were aware of the affair. How can someone make love to their wife after coming back from having sex with someone else? I can't imagine the horror that a spouse might feel after finding out that their spouse had an affair? That I HAD/WAS FORCED to believe that this man who is pumping away on top of me is the man that I love and respect and believe him to be. Talk about being made a fool and being duped. ugh!
There will always be women/men who are willing to have sex with a married person. However, it is the sole responsibility of the spouse to remain faithful. It is a choice--theirs and theirs alone.
Edited 9/8/2004 8:50 am ET ET by sexismyforte
"1) Really in love with their wife and trying to save their marriage"
he has no religious hang ups and he certianly could have found some.
I guess my piont is that a marriage can be good, and monogomous, even when the sex is not great. Fortunately, our relationship is based on more than just sex.
if he had an affair during those years it would have been no more forgivable than it would be now that my libido has returned. We made a commitment to eachother. It is understood that if either of us needs to be with someone else, we should be respectful to the other and leave first.
Great response, you said it better than I could. That is exactly how I feel about infidelity as well, and dh knows this.
Danielle
Please don't judge all men based on the lowest common denominator. That's as bad and sexist and demeaning as saying the majority of women don't like sex but just 'put up with it' for their partner.
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