Who talks about sex more: M or F?

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Who talks about sex more: M or F?
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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 6:34am

I've read a lot of posts where women say they talk to their female friends about the details of sex, such as penis size, positions, etc. My experience talking to other men is that we discuss sex in a much more general sense, such as whether we are "getting any" or not, but there hasn't been much detail. When talking to same sex friends, do you think men or women are more likely to discuss the details?

My opinion is that women talk about it more, not just details, but more often. What do you think?

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 12:31pm

Gory details can still be vague. It only becomes clear when you tie those specific details to a specific person. So if a guy goes on about some encounter, but those details cannot be tied to specific person then it is still vague.

Now onto another topic you brought up and that's men exaggerating their sexual encounters. This is predominately a male trait. Quite honestly, I have no idea why guys do this. I just don't see the point.

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 12:50pm

Of all the men I know none do more than tell dirty jokes in front of me... except one. And he will say the nastiest dirtiest little secrets directly to me about his wife whom I've been friends with and known longer than he has.

I'm sure she would be horrified if she knew he told me these things!

On the rare occassions men that me and my partner know talk about their sex lives I rarely hear about them bragging, rather they complain if anything.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:42pm

Yes, they can but that hasn't been my experience, which is what I was relating. The details these men were providing WERE tied to a partner or specific person(s). Sometimes, someone I knew personally making it even more uncomfortable!

And I suppose men exaggerate their sexual experiences for the same reason women downplay theirs....the silly belief our society has that men should have more sexual desire and experience than women.




Edited 9/29/2005 1:46 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:30pm

I never talk in specific detail about my sex life to anyone. I have a couple of close friends who I give some details to, just for a laugh or whatever. My best friend gets a kick out of some of the stuff I tell her, just because I make it sound so hilarious, and only tell her enough information that she has to figure out the rest with her imagination!! However, it rarely extends any more than "I had the most amazing orgasm last night" or whatever. Everyone else, they know that I'm sleeping with someone, but I never tell them anything.

The guy I'm sleeping with at the moment doesn't discuss details with anyone. All his friends know is that we are friends, and he leaves it strictly at that. And because he is so respectful about that I am making every effort to not tell anyone anything (although anything I do say is positive!)

My ex used to complain to our friends if he wasn't getting enough, or would complain about never getting blowjobs, right in front of me. But with his attitude the way it was, our friends were hardly surprised he wasn't getting what he wanted!!

Janet

 


 


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