Who "woke you up" sexually?

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Who "woke you up" sexually?
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:23pm

I think for many of us, our early sex partners may have been fun and intimate, but at some point in our lives we had a partner that just lit a sexual fire in us, someone who helped us take it to a whole new level through emotion or example or whatever. If this happened to you, who would it be?

Greg

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 3:00am
Her name was Paula Merritt and she rocked my whole world. I never believed in the word Soulmate until I met her. We were together 6 years. Then one of her so called girlfriends gave her some Meth (crank), 8 months later she's went thought our savings and we were in debt. 3 months later I ran into the guy that kept selling her the crap and I threatened that I would cut his head off if he ever came around my wife or sold her anymore of that poison. He went to the police and told them I tried to stab him. I spent 14 months in the county jail and still fighting the charges. My wife, I have'nt seen or heard from her in over 2 years. You know, I feel lucky, I got to meet and fall in love with my soulmate, the person God made for me. Alot of people go though life and never get to know a love like that. So, I guess it's true, it's better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all.
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 8:46am
That would definitely be my DH. We have recently come to a new place in our sexual relationship, that neither of us has ever been before -- and we ain't spring chickens! Having said that, I really think the difference has been because of my attitude, but he is always more than willing to spoil me ;-)


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Registered: 09-07-2006
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:47am

I think it being with the right person that you feel TOTALLY comfortable with - that you can just open up with - without worry about what they will think of what you want to do/try etc. My SO is that woman. She never did hardly anything until she met me and I NEVER would have considered letting a woman handcuff me (real ones - she used to be a deputy sheriff) naked to a bed -- but with her -- within a month or so after we were intimate - I did not hesitate to ask her nor was she unwilling to let me handcuff her.

There was/is an absolute trust and love there. I can openly ask her to try different things w/o feeling like she will judge me... For instance, I have always wanted to be anal stimulated (or try it) while having sex - and while being given a BJ. She had no problem doing that --

I have wanted to be tied down and had syrup licked off me and my nipples bitten (not real hard) etc and she is willing to do that - as well as we made love and had just pure sex in the backyard - daytime and nighttime...

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 12:32pm

A fellow named Neil. It was after a breakup of a long relationship where I just didn't enjoy sex. I thought I would always be the girl that got bored with sex, the wife that all the comedians make fun of because sex would be few and far between.

Then I met him, and all we did was have sex. It was amazing, and exhilirating, and awesome!

After that, I've never grown bored with sex. Actually, I think I have a higher libido then my current boyfriend.

:)