Why am i so embarressed to have sex?

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Registered: 08-01-2007
Why am i so embarressed to have sex?
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 4:31am
I love my body, i exercise to keep it in good condition, i eat right, and from doing all this i do get compliments from guys about how good my body does look, and for that i like to show it off, it makes me feel sexy. my problem however is that when i have sex with my bf, i am completely shy and can't even be fully naked. my rules for having sex use to be it had to be a dark room, or really dim, i wanted my top to stay on and and a sheet over us to cover, and me be on the bottom. ive loosened up somewhat, but i am still too shy to even take off my top, and i want it to be over in like 10 minutes. i just feel way too embarressed and like what i am doing is "wrong". and because of all this i dont ever have orgasms or any pleasure at all!. i only have (well put up) with sex for my bf's pleasure because i feel too ashamed, embarressed and shy to be open, and be on top, and moan and scream and move my body around and all the things you usually do when you have sex. i cant do any of that becuase i feel just too embarressed and shy. for me to be on top, and ride him, and thrust my hips and all that, is sooo embarressing for me, i just feel plain out embarressed and i dont know why and i dont know how to overcome this:S
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 8:25am

Welcome to the board.

First off, there are no rules about how you have to have sex. Instead of having an image of what you "think" you should be doing, why not try to enjoy what you are actually experiencing? How does your BF treat you? Does he tell you you're sexy, that he loves you, etc? Hopefully he does, and you can learn to trust him.

Not all people are comfortable when they begin to have sex. It's not always about how your body looks, some people worry about the facial expressions they make, noises they make, or someone having such a close look at them. Being on top puts you in full exposure. It sounds like you are starting to become more comfortable, and over time, you will probably continue to become more comfortable.

Are you experiencing orgasms while masturbating? What about foreplay between you and your partner. If you enjoy the pleasures of sex, then you will overcome your shyness more quickly.



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