Why? Any Advice?

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Why? Any Advice?
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:45pm

Why do women have so many options for being satisfied? Women have the butt, boobs and vagina. Why does it feel like when you're trying to please your man the only options are his penis and kisses?

I am very behind in touching my man and he is way a head of me. I was wondering if there were any ladies out there who could help me with knowing how a man likes to be touched. I am very inexperienced and I would love to have some help from people that know what they are doing. Is there anything I could do to surprise him because these are both our first relationships.

Thank You!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:14pm

There are many ways to pleasure a man too but it depends on what that particular man likes.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:55pm

Since this is the first relationship for both of you, it's likely that neither of you knows everything you do or don't like. It's a wonderful opportunity to explore each others bodies and learn together!

Men have many more sensitive spots than just their penises. Their butt and nipples are usually just as sensitive as yours are. He's probably trying to learn just as much about your body and how to pleasure you.

Here are a couple of articles that you might find helpful:

Better Sex, Easy as 1-2-3: 20 Tips Every Couple Should Know
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drruth_r9s4,00.html

5 Things That Can Ruin Your Sex Life (and how to avoid them)
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexconcerns/0,,traceycox_7slp2dh5,00.html

Visiting the board is also a great resource. You can review past posts and start discussions of your own. It's helpful if you ask questions in a more narrow term, like "How do I give him the best oral pleasure?" or "What other positions are exciting?". That way, members an concentrate on areas that they feel they can give the most advice in.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:13am

Who said there's only the penis and kisses? He has a whole body, just like you do....and there are many things you can do to surprise him....and pleasure him. He also has nipples...and many men love them kissed or sucked on. (some men don't like it though, so you'll have to ASK him if he likes you doing that) Some men like their prostate massaged. Some men like you to kiss their whole body....work your way down to the inner thighs......some men like their testicles fondled or kissed.....there's a whole body there for you to have fun with. And for women there's a whole lot more than boobs, butt or vagina. You left out the most important sexual organ you have....the clitoris. THAT will give you more pleasure than your vagina.

Here's a site that gives you a LOT of info on how to pleasure a man: http://www.the-penis.com/thirty.htm

And here's one for you to check out and have HIM check out about pleasuring a woman: www.the-clitoris.com

You're both new to this....and the way you learn is to TALK and to experiment. You can ask him what he likes, as you have to with every new man you'll ever be with......because they are ALL different......just as all women are. Not all women like their breasts played with......ALL people are different, and ALL people have different "hot spots".

Half the fun of a new relationship, especially a first relationship.....is to experiment and explore. That's how you learn.

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:12am
Ask him! Explore his body! Almost any part of the body can be an erogenous if you touch it the right way and under the right circumstances.

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Registered: 06-28-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:46pm
Just something else to think about: Men also have EYES. I've heard that most men can be very aroused by what they see. I know my DH is!

 

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:32pm
So true! Sometimes it is fun just to use the visual and no touch. I did a striptease for dh a few weeks ago and he went wild and I didn't even touch him for about 15 minutes. Also one of his favorites is just to watch me touch myself.



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