Why are facials degrading?
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Why are facials degrading?
| Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:28pm |
I have seen many posts that describe facials as degrading to a woman. Why is that? I've always asked a partner if I could cum on her body before I did it, and wouldn't do it without permission. What is it, though, that makes a facial particularly objectionable? I don't see where it's any more degrading than cumming in her mouth, or on her breasts, etc.

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" For most men...." How do you know that? AGAIN with the massive generalizations! THIS is my primary complaint with you, Rice.
You just assume that every man has had the same lousy experiences that YOU have. WRONG!
My husband has never had any problems getting women to touch him ANYWHERE. In fact, when he made the conscious choice not to engage in intercourse before marriage, he had girls throwing themselves at him! And after we were married, he actually had a coworker offer to have sex with him and keep it secret. Have you never met one of THOSE women?
Personally, I have always been a very curious and generous lover in that I want to experience all aspects of lovemaking....which means GIVING to my partner as much as I receive. And I'm not bragging nor do I believe that I am unique in this way in the least. Most of the women I know say the same thing. I can't imagine anything more boring than to lie there doing nothing.
But since your assumptions and reactions to women have not served you well over the years.....I would think you would have attempted to change them LONG ago.
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Well, women HAVE to be the "gatekeepers" when it comes to sex because we can be left with a lifelong "dividend" to the experience. Women MUST be more discretionary about sex and our partners because we're the ones to give birth.
We've all seen those women who choose not to be the gatekeepers.....they have several children by several different fathers.
I agree but the gatekeeping BEGAN centuries ago for more practical reasons, especially since women didn't expect too much from a partner in the way of intimate or emotional contributions to a relationship.
Women simply didn't expect a partner be emotionally involved in the sex act. The most they could hope for was that the father would stay around to raise the resulting children. So, the expectations have changed dramatically over the centuries, so have the reasons for the gatekeeping.
And as sophisticated and reliable as birth control may be these days, it's not 100% so there will always be a risk of pregnancy.
I based my assumptions not just on my experiences, but on that of my friends, as well as my readings on the subject, just as everyone here does. I don't see how my extrapolations are any more invalid than those by women who claim that 'Most women love and enjoy sex' just because they do.
BTW, the second most common complaint that I've heard from my friends, after "She's never in the mood." has been "I wish she would touch me like I touch her", or words to that effect. Maybe I didn't understand what they were talking about.
"Do you think that girls enjoyed saying that?"
Yes
"Do you think that girls didn't want to have sex?"
Yes
"Do you think that girls enjoyed having to always be the gatekeepers and the one's to have to stop the groping hands?"
Yes.
You're missing the point I was trying to make. If a girl was uncomfortable with what was happening, all she had to do was say "No", or "Stop", or "Don't" and most guys would understand and would respect her wishes. The only reason she would say something that would make him feel guilty about what he had done would be if that was her intent.
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