why cant he stay hard

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Registered: 10-17-2006
why cant he stay hard
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:30pm
from the very first, my boyfriend told me he has a hard time staying hard and that he cums very quickly. I would like to know what we can do to get him to last longer so he can enjoy sex alot more. please help
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 11:46pm

There is no "we" in this situation. It's his problem, and he's the only one who can do anything about it. It's more than likely due to "performance anxiety", or some other "emotional" problem, like guilt, or sexual repression.

The only thing YOU can do is to not make an issue about it. Maybe if he takes more time giving you foreplay, and taking his mind off it....it would help. At least that way you'd be satisfied, and he'd know that, and possibly not think about it so much.

The more you discuss it, or indicate that you're unhappy about it, the more it will bother him, and continue to happen. Maybe he's just not comfortable with you yet.

It's not an unusual problem...and he can learn to control it. Do a search on the interntet, there are thousands of articles about it. Here's just one: http://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61404.htm

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:33am

He can learn to control his ejaculation and he can learn how to do it during masturbation with the start/stop method


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