Why can't more women be like my gf?

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Why can't more women be like my gf?
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 11:45pm

I just recently met a wonderful girl. She's sharp, sweet, incredibly attractive, and best of all, she has absolutely no sexual inhibitions. There's nothing she will not do. We had sex on our first date, had sex at the end of every date and sometimes even have sex instead of going out on a date. We're still dating casually right now, as she agrees we should see if we're sexually compatible before we commit to a relationship.

Why can't more women be like this? Why do most women have to require a guy to dish out a ton of money and time on dating and courting before sex even comes into the picture? This is how it should be.

Either way, there is one problem when we do have sex. She gets pretty dry pretty fast, if you know what I mean. Is there anyway to tastefully and sensitively suggest she use some lube?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:20am

Because some women respect themselves more......and don't want to have sex with every guy that comes down the pike........They'd rather wait until they're sure the guy is after more than sex.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 7:38am
I think you should just go ahead and use the lube. I know when we use lube, my DH is the one applying it 99% of the time.


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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 11:45am

If everyone was like your gf, it wouldn't be anything new & special for you. She'd be just like everyone else.


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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:47pm

I'm gonna have to agree with Sakura on this one.

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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:24am

"That being said, you sound more like a FB than a "boyfriend" to her (sorry)."

No apologies. Believe me, I am not disappointed in the least.

"Some people just have an extreme sexual chemistry and don't connect emotionally. Others connect emotionally and don't have the sexual chemistry. I think most women (and men) hope to find both. You don't have to spend a ton of money on a woman. If she's really into you then she just wants to spend time with you and wants to learn more about you. Dating is foreplay for women too. It's the anticipation of the first kiss, making out and the general build up to the excellent part."

Well, I'm sorry that dating is foreplay for you, but it really doesn't do much for me. For me and a lot of other guys, dating is a chore. I just wish more women didn't require men to give so much for sex; that they had sex freely without inhibition, for their own fun and pleasure.

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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 2:26am

You must have been living a very sheltered life.......because LOTS of women DO have sex for their own fun and pleasure.

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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 8:26am

I agree with Sakura. There are tons of women who have sex "freely without inhibition, for their own fun and pleasure."

For a man to think dating is a chore is more than a bit sad. To me, that screams that he is looking for a playmate in the bedroom and nothing more. That's perfectly okay .... if he finds a woman who is looking for the same. But, while we're on the topic of chores, imagine that it took more for you to orgasm than a little friction on your penis while looking at or imagining a beautiful female body. If that were the case, don't you think you might want be with someone who you thought would be able to provide what you need to enjoy sex? For many women sex feels like a chore because they are getting little to nothing out of the experience. If she opts to have a relationship with a person, instead of just a roll in the hay, then she stands a better chance of him caring enough about her pleasure as well as his own. When opting for a relationship, dating is a wonderful and magical experience in itself.

Perhaps we need to offer a class in Dating 101 here.



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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:04pm

It seems to me then that you have gotten what you want.

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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 4:46pm

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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 5:37pm

Maybe it's just me, but even if the relationship's just about sex, I love taking a beautiful woman out to dinner or a party and just bonding with her and basking in the glow and thinking dirty thoughts about what I'll do to her later.

Don't count dates out by any means. They are really really really fun. They can lead to really interesting emotions like affection and health and warmth. And those in turn open the door to really hot great filthy crazy nuclear-powered sex.

The girls I've been with that unzipped my pants after half an hour of knowing them, well they turned out to be utterly uninteresting as soon as the orgasm was done. Dating is good. You must not have been on very fun ones. But there's only person to blame for that ...

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