Why did I find this exciting?

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Why did I find this exciting?
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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 11:04am
Last night, my friend stopped by and we went shopping and then when we got back, my DH got home from work with a friend of his and sent my friend and I to go get beer. While we were driving, she mentioned that if DH and I wanted to go have sex, don't mind her, but she might drop in and watch. She said she was a voyeur and loved to watch. Thinking she was joking (even though she has begged to see our sex pictures from the honeymoon) I just said, sure go ahead and watch.

Well, the subject came up at home later and we were laughing about it...all of us and then she went outside to smoke a cigarette and DH pulled me into the bedroom and we started to have sex. She could hear us outside and then she walked inside and the bedroom door was open and she just stood there watching us and played with a toy at the edge of the bed. For some reason, I just didn't stop and neither did he. Neither of us have ever had anyone watch before. Now I'm not saying this is going to ever happen again. Probably not, but for some reason, I found it exciting.

Never was it considered that she join in and that wouldn't happen. Plus she is very respectful of the fact that we're married and no one is to join us sexually, but watching didn't bother me at all.

Has anyone ever watched you and if so, did you like it? Would you ever let it happen?

Like I said, I found it exciting, but I'm not so sure I'd let it happen again.

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 4:37pm
My DH seems to feel the same way. We've had sex in the car, woods, deserted beach, etc. and he loves being outdoors with the chance of being caught. However, he has never wanted to actually be SEEN by anyone. It's just the possibility, as you said.
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 5:16pm
I do agree, Jeep, but to a point...I'm afraid that I only enjoyed it because I had been drinking. Not so much taht I had NO idea what was going on, but enough to loosen up so I didn't mind her being there watching.

I'm not into 3somes and I won't ever be able to get to the point where those are okay, nor swinging. I am 100% committed to monogamy with DH. He is also 100% committed to me. It's a fantasy of his, but he is okay with not ever doing so.

We do have pics from our honeymoon last month and those still exist in a private place.

Otherwise, I'm just scared I allowed her in our room because I was a little tipsy.

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 5:23pm
See that's the cool part. Just the idea that someone MIGHT see us is awesome. My friend went outside and DH wanted to have sex. He's so good at it, I just can't turn him down and I was very turned on by him touching me, so he pulled me into the bedroom and we just went for it.

I was very turned on that my friend could hear us (the back porch where she was is just outside our bedroom window). I knew she'd come inside the house and the bedroom door was cracked open a little. But I wasn't sure she'd actually walk in. At the time, I didn't care because I was too into DH to notice one way or the other. Once I noticed her there, it was too late to say anything. Who knows how long she'd been there so she had seen it all by then.

The part that makes me uncomfortable is not her seeing me naked, but seeing DH. His body is not for other's eyes.

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 6:17pm
But the difference is that my DH would never approach me sexually while we had friend's over.

And in all the instances where we did have sex outdoors, we were in remote places with little traffic or people around. The chance of someone actually seeing us was almost nil. The desire was never to actually be caught but to be outside. He always took precautions so that we wouldn't be seen.

Hey, but everyone's different and if you and your DH and friend are cool with what happened, then it's just another experience to remember.




Edited 6/14/2004 6:40 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 8:08pm
I guess in a way, DH knew this was the closest he'd ever get to the 3some fantasy and since I went along with it and had sex with him while she was visiting, it was all good. But I know for sure that if I had refused, he would have respected it and not approached it until no one was there. He is definitely not into forcing me into anything that makes me feel weird.

But you're right, it's a moment to remember. Somethng we never did before that we have now tried.

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