Why do guys cheat?

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Why do guys cheat?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 6:15pm

This was a hot one that is being shared across much of IVillage:


Why do guys cheat? Tell us what you think about men and fidelity.
http://ivillage.opinionware.com/owuser/marieclarie/polls/noresults/050131_cheat.htm


Whether you're taking the survey or no, feel free to share your opinion anyway.

 

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 7:25pm
Has anyone taken the survey?

 

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 8:06pm

I haven't

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 8:24pm

Surveys take too much time.

Have I cheated. Yeah, a lot in the past. Was it good? It was VERY good. Why? Because I wasn't getting what I needed. Simple.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 8:39pm

I cannot comprehend cheating (men or women).


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 9:14pm
2nds on that.
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Registered: 08-03-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 9:17pm

it's not just guys that cheat. one of my best girl friends has cheated on her BF, lots and lots of times. and he has to her. i don't get it at all.... having been cheated on, i know that it sucks. i don't think there's an excuse for it. possible *reasons* are being not happy in the relationship, easily giving into confrontation, and putting it simply - the person that cheated just isn't in love w/ you. i don't believe you can love someone sooo much then turn around and hurt them and betray them like that. it's unacceptable....

i also took the survey!

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Registered: 02-06-2005
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 10:45pm
I took the survey and as a guy here's my take on the whole thing. Guys cheat usually for one of two reasons, lets go with the easy one first. She cheated, and he wants to get even, or even up the score. The more complicated one, is insecurity. Guys are insecure for all sorts of reasons, and end up cheating. How many times do you see a dude who should be kissing the f'n ground for being with some great girl, and the jerk cheats on her with some ugly chick he meets at the bar one night. A lot of guys are so afraid to admit emotion, and come out with things that they end up doing it in actions rather than words. Or a guy who is insecure and thinks the girl is cheating, so he cheats too! Or a guy is insecure and afraid to break up with the girl so he just cheats. I know a lot of guys who are just flat out scared to be alone, so they cheat assuming they can relationship hop so they wont be single. It's pretty messed up.
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Registered: 11-21-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 11:33pm

No offence, but for someone who makes cheating seem so simple and straight forward, I'm a little in awe that you couldn't simplify it enough to do the moral thing and end whatever you had that wasn't giving you what you wanted/needed.

Then again, I haven't been in your shoes... but nevertheless *I* wouldn't cheat on a person, makes no sense to.

..............& I took the survey. I find it interesting how it's such a common idea of men cheating...women cheat probably just as much, in my opinion.

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:08am
I didn't take the survey because I simply thought it was offensive. Guys don't cheat. Girls don't cheat. PEOPLE cheat. Another one of societies fun little quirks - men are the ones that cheat, since they are naturally inclined to want to "spread their seeds". What a bunch of BS. Not that there isn't a bunch of BS that society throws on women, but this is what we're talking about.....
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 11:53pm
Well, i disagree...women do cheat, but men cheat much more...how do i know? i don't but it's far easier for them. My ex cheated on his 2 gf's after me...with me. Why? Mainly, he's a horny b*stard. Also, he likes that he can get away with it. I don't do it anymore cuz he's just not appealing to me anymore, and the only reason i did in the first place was because he started dating my b*tch ass cousin who i just wannted to get back at...(yea stupid and imature i know). anyways...he still trys to hook up with me and is in a realationship with this girl for a while, living with her and i believe she is still pregnant with his baby.....love those men....so....that's why i see that men cheat...of course there are some that respect their women...wish i could find one, cuz he probably cheated on me too..gross!

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