Why do I lose interest?
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Why do I lose interest?
| Fri, 07-08-2005 - 3:13pm |
Does anyone have any insights or ideas? It has happened to me several times. When I am in a secure, mature, loving relationship I lose interest in sex and I don't know why. It seems that I act more sexual and crave sex whenever I'm not in a secure relationship. Any thoughts? Is this normal? Is it lack of love or connection? I honestly have no clue. Please help!!

Maybe you have problems with emotional intimacy? Maybe you equate security and monogamy with boredom and routine? Maybe you think that because the hormones cool a little, that you aren't in love anymore? Maybe this is what was modeled for you by your parents?
Many people seem dependant today on risk and danger to feel sexually alive but unless you want to live your life that way forever, you'll have to break this pattern at some point.
Counseling might benefit you in that regard but sometimes, just maturing provides us with a more realistic perspective on life and love.
It takes effort and a conscious choice to keep sex hot in a long term relationship. But it's well worth it. You end up with a friend and a lover who knows you inside and out. I've been married for 28 yrs. so I speak from experience. It's worth it.