Why do I need to pee?

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Registered: 04-17-2005
Why do I need to pee?
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 6:38pm

Hello

Me and my boyfriend have been in our relationship for some time now, we regularly touch each other and have oral sex, and more recently we have started experimenting with penetrative sex. My question is this; why, even when I don't drink much beforehand or even have relieved myself first, do I feel the need to pee almost hourly while we are cuddling and touching? Even when he does not touch my clitoris I get this sensation. The oddest part is that if I do go to the toilet, I'll pass quite a significant amount of urine. I wouldn't mind but we have trouble enough getting me wet enough for comfortable penetration anyway, and if I take too long in the bathroom he loses his erection.

Is there anything I can do to stop this happening as it's very irritating and sometimes I'll even carry on being uncomfortable to save my boyfriend's annoyance - it really bugs him although he can see I can't help it. It bugs me too! Can anybody help?

If it helps I usually pass water 4-5 times a day.

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:19pm
I think it is just the body's reaction sometimes. This doesn't happen to me, but about half the time my current lover has to get up and just pees an unbeLIEVable amount. I don't lose arousal I just use my hand for a couple of minutes and then he just comes back and if it's gone soft I will get him going again then carry on. I can hear him in the bathroom and it really is something else. I think it is just that he is pretty intense in bed and all that bonking must irritate his bladder. He always goes right before we get in bed but still sometimes that isn't enough. So I think it's just the way some people are, there's nothing unusual about him except the intensity of his thrusting.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:33pm

Could be that the pelvic congestion which results from sexual arousal is putting pressure on your bladder and urethra and that's normal.

It's also possible that you are feeling the beginnings of female ejaculation. Next time you feel this sensation, and of course, when you feel more comfortable with experimenting, don't get up to relieve yourself and just continue with the stimulation you're enjoying. Some women say that "urge to pee" sensation will lead to ejaculation.

Also, I would suggest using some KY or other lube if natural lubrication is a problem.That's what it was created for, that's why it sells so well because we ALL use it occasionally, if not all the time. I can't imagine NOT using a lube for manual stimulation anyway!

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Registered: 06-10-2005
Sat, 06-11-2005 - 3:40am
first of all, if after this happens, you dont want to have sex, don't. you wouldnt make your man feel bad about not giving you sex if it hurt his penis, right? and on to the other issue...this is very normal. its mainly because body parts are pressing up against you and so they are also pressing up against your bladder. same thing for when you have intercourse. the penis goes in and presses against the vaginal walls and this puts pressure on your bladder as well. it is normal, but if after peeing, your vagina is too dry to have sex comfortably, and you both just have to go through with it, use plenty of lubricant. KY Jelly works well, but i have found that spit works, too, and its a lot more fun to apply. if you want to be 100% sure of the cause, go to a doctor. you can never be too careful with your own body.