Why do I still sleep with him?
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Why do I still sleep with him?
| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 7:58pm |
I've been having sex with a man I am not committed to for over a year and half now, on and off. Recently I have decided that the sex is no longer good and pleasurable for me, but still can't seem to stop sleeping with him. I have tried in the past, but found it hard to not, afterall that's all we've done everytime we've seen each other. I don't know how to stop or why I feel I still have urges when I'm around him. Should I cut him out of my life completely or should I just learn how to control these urges? Do the urges mean i still want to? Ah! Help! Anyone been in this situation or have any advice to offer up, it'd be greatly appreciated, thanks! - Bunny

girl, time to reflect on your self-confidence issues, cause that's obviously what's kept you there for so long. i hope you realize being in no relationship is better than what you've got going now.
Leticia
The question is why don't you stop? It's not a committed relationship, you don't enjoy it, the sex isn't fulfilling.....so what's the problem? Don't you think you're worth anything better? Do you feel that a lousy man is better than no man at all?
He's obviously NOT someone you want to be with. As long as you ARE with him, you'll never look for someone who IS right for you. Maybe you feel that you won't find anyone else? Guess what, you'll like yourself a lot better if you get him out of your life! Learn to be happy with yourself first, then you'll be able to find someone who will make you even happier. Work on your self respect and self esteem.