Why do men like giving anal sex?

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Why do men like giving anal sex?
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 6:32pm

I haven't slept with the guy I am dating yet, but know he is a big fan of anal sex. I told him it hurt when I tried it with my ex. He said the guy who did it probably doesn't know what he's doing and he does. I've known him for a year and he will beg me to try it, he's very persuasive even with things I say I'll never do.

But my question is why are some men in love with giving it to a girl in the backdoor anyway? Is it the submissiveness of her bent over taking it, does it just feel really tight and good, different than the traditional way I assume? Is it just a way to spice up with variety?

I've had a finger back there and it felt good, but anything more- I don't think so! Any fans of anal sex, male or female can maybe tell me why they love it.

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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 6:43pm

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Yes. :)


All those are possibilities; what it is for you man only he can tell you.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 6:47pm
Gosh, I've never felt the slightest compunction to do anything anal. The other two orifices are fab, but nahhhh, not that one thanks. ;-)
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 6:54pm
It can be a number of reasons why he likes it.

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 7:05pm
I doubt if it was the domination he would tell me!
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 7:30pm

But my question is why are some men in love with giving it to a girl in the backdoor anyway? Is it the submissiveness of her bent over taking it, does it just feel really tight and good, different than the traditional way I assume? Is it just a way to spice up with variety?


All of the above.


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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 11:56pm
I am a man and I just have never tried the "back door". I just don't have any interest in that entrance. I'll take the vagina every time.
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Tue, 12-21-2004 - 1:02am
My boyfriend and I love anal. I love how it feels and sometimes I even play with myself in the back when I am mastrubating. But like a previous post said, it should not hurt, and if it does that day, then stop and try again later. As much as I like it, I think my boyfriend loves it even more. If it was up to him, it would be anal all the time every time!! For me, I don't have any submissive feelings while having anal. For some that may be a turn on. As another poster said, you can have anal in different positions. My favorite is when I am on top. Sometimes, we also use anal as birth control.
But definitely take it slow, lots of lube, and relax. The lube that we have found to be the best for anal is Eros! I love it.
Good luck and have fun, Rose
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Registered: 10-01-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 9:48pm

The speculation of why men like it from the psychological perception is interesting. Perhaps true. I find it arousing and I try to encourage my SO that I find it a turn on. I do not make it my sole agenda.

My question is, Is there an equivalent for what women want from men in an erotic sense?

Interested in yours and others take from the reverse side of something equivalent for women.

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Wed, 12-22-2004 - 6:29am
Physically the anal spincter is much tighter around the penis than the vaginal spincter. When moving there's less likelyhood of bumping the cervix. Tell him you've practiced your kegel's and there's no reason to go next door.
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Wed, 12-22-2004 - 10:55am

Well in this relationship I am the one who prefers it more. Hubby is not that into it. He said it may be tighter but he prefers the tightness of the vagina because when I do kegals I can tighten up around the head of the penis which is not possible to do during anal. For some reason I have great orgasams from anal. We only do it every few months.

Guys like various thing for every imaginable reason. Anal was originaly my Hubby's idea cause he wanted to see what all the fuss is about. The only guys I have been with that prefered it more than vaginal were on the smaller manhood size.

And as far as girls being subissive and taking it up the back side, if anal is being done then it is the girl who has to be incharge. Guy's can't just ram it up there. I know that is how it is portrayed in porn but that is not real. They don't show the boring slow part.