Why do some guys do this

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Why do some guys do this
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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 5:27pm

Okay, this really isn't a sex question but I guess more about attraction and I am just trying to figure out why some guys do this and some don't.

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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 12:18pm

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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 12:19pm

I wasn't offended by it in any way, I was just wondering what makes so guys say it.

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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:30pm
What makes some guys say it? My vote is for lack of common sense, judgement and forethought!
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:35pm
I can't answer for guys, but I just wanted to say that although I don't get offended, I find it uncomfortable knowing that I'm being rated and watched no matter where I go. I'm very modest, maybe that's why. I get embarrassed when so much attention is given to me. I know that it's just the way it is(guys like ogling), but I thought that I'd tell how it makes SOME women feel. I know that it's just the way it is, and we have to accept that when we go out into public, it's a free country and men can look all they want, but I just wanted them to know that being rated constantly is not always liked by all. It's almost an impingement on a person's space. It's like you're a celebrity and can't go out without being bothered. And one other thing: I feel bad for the less attractive women who don't get any attention at all and are basically invisible. Ironically, a man could be complimenting an ogre of a woman to 'make her day' while a woman who is a saint but less attractive is invisible. It's all very superficial. Oh..well...just thought I'd share my thoughts.
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:44pm

I don't think it was my clothes, I guess it could have been but

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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:44pm

Good point but that's why I say, "look but keep your comments to yourself."

Men simply cannot know what a particular woman's experience has been, so rather than offending unintentionally, it's just best to keep those comments to himself. After all, there are all kinds of ways to communicate appreciation. A big smile and eye contact being the best.

I personally don't care what some random man thinks of my butt, boobs, legs, etc. so that kind of inappropriate comment would never be appreciated by me and would be construed as disrespectful rather than flattering.

And btw, one man's "ogre" is another man's beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so there is always someone who appreciates a person's particular look that other's may not.




Edited 11/18/2005 1:50 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:55pm
Re-read my post. When I said "ogre of a woman" I meant her 'insides' not her 'outsides'.
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 1:55pm

I'm sure these particular guys WERE just appreciative of your beauty because obviously, nothing bad happened. In THOSE particular instances, the comments were harmless. But who's to say that the next time will be the same?

The problem comes with feeling TOO comfortable in those situations. I always say, go with your intuition, it rarely steers you wrong.




Edited 11/18/2005 1:57 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 2:00pm
I stand corrected, however, my point was in reference to your comment about a "less attractive woman" not getting attention and being invisible.


Edited 11/18/2005 2:03 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 2:07pm
True, but compared to a very attractive woman, a very homely looking woman might go years before being appreciated, as opposed to 20x's a day.