Why do some guys do this

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Why do some guys do this
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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 5:27pm

Okay, this really isn't a sex question but I guess more about attraction and I am just trying to figure out why some guys do this and some don't.

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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 8:38pm
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 9:44pm
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 11:12pm

Along with wondering why some guys do it, perhaps it would help to counter that investigation with why many of us guys do it.

I think some guys truly view it as compliments whereas others of us are more sensitive to how you women COULD feel or CHOOSE to feel about it...so the others of us more sensitive ones don't even bother. We can guess 'for' them, but who will really know other than them anyway.

Interesting thing is, whether it shows on this board or not, there are still so many women out there who LOVE that kind of manly attention whereas others choose to view it as disrespectful.

As one poster put, the EAR of the beholder?, lol.

 

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Sat, 11-19-2005 - 10:24am

Hi ctara19811:"come up and compliment me (not that it is a bad things, but two were complete strangers, and one was a customer from my old job)."

When a guy approaches a woman (stranger), the guy is asking for trouble:
she could feel threatened. I have approached women in a parking lot; letting them know their brake lights did NOT work. I thought they were going to call the cops!

Mac

 

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Sat, 11-19-2005 - 11:16am

Hey Mac, long time no see, glad you're back!


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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 10:19am

Hi Tish:

Thanks, I miss the lively discussions.

Mac

 

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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 10:41am

>>I have approached women in a parking lot; letting them know their brake lights did NOT work. I thought they were going to call the cops!<<

Although I believe the original discussion was aiming more toward "complimentary" men, I agree with your statement here in general anyway...its just soooo true...and keep in mind that I'm testifying as a minority at that.

Tricks/lessons I've learned was to keep my distance when communicating to them, and for land sakes, definitely remember to refer them as , lol. I've noticed tricks like these go a long way when attempting to avoid the wrong impression. Some are just stuck in their mindset about males regardless though, lol, no avoiding that...part of life.

 

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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 11:46am

Well, I know several guys for whom that is simply a self assured introduction, a pick up line that is vcery simple and rather than try to fool you, simply introduces his interest and then depends on your impression of him to choose whether to say more or not...these men have a lot of self confidence and no shyness.

Or the opposite(me) who for most of his life has been very shy. Recognizing that I was especially shy with women I felt were far out of my league, as I got a little older and decided to fight my shyness I began to offer simple compliments or greetings with women that intimidated me. It was a self taught course in assertativeness, and just talking to you with such a compliment would be a triumoph and make the next time easier...

But hes probably just a womanizing dog trolling for an easy catch.

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:43am
Speaking from a guys point of view.
I have approached a few women before and told them that they were very beauiful.
Why? Because I know, as a man, that compliments from the heart are so precious and few.
Men rarely get compliments, yet when I have, they have been very memorable moments to me.
Therefor, if I think it, I say it. I'm not trying to pick up on anyone, I just know that it makes a person feel good. After all they brightened my day with their beauty and presence. At least I can thank them for it.
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:25am

The same thing happens to me!!

My ex bf always says sweet things to me like "You're gorgeous, I'd do anything to have you on my arm", customers at work compliment me like crazy "Wow, you're so cute, how would you like to go for coffee?", guys at restaurants "Your so beautiful, I couldn't stop lookin at you" BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH.... and it's funny, my bf NEVER has said anything like that to me. Not even in the very beginning. Makes me kinda sad sometimes to be honest.

But yea watch out for creepies. LOL!