Sometimes it's nice not to have to go thru all the build up. Sometimes I'm already ready to go, foreplay not required. Different than just doing it myself, but the same goal to just get to the O.
It is important to me to have an O every time. Atleast one, but more is prefered during a long session. I figure it's my job to get me to O, it's his job not to finish before I do that.
I think quickies are great! Sometimes it's fun to give him a gift, other times, I'm ready to go, so a quickie allows for that release if we're in a hurry.
Think about all the things that you enjoy about quickies, all the feelings you feel, or the things you think and share those with him. Instead of trying to convince him that you don't have to "O" to have a good time, talk about the things that make you satisfied with the event.
I would recommend that he does some reading too. The site Sakura gave you a link to, the-clitoris.com, is an excellent place to start. It could be that he had previous partners who climaxed easily, or even faked it. As was already mentioned, he can help you get there, but he can't make it happen all by himself. Let him know that if he keeps pressuring you, then it's less likely to happen anyway.
I LOVE quickies, I don't like to have sex for a very long time bc I am allergic to condoms so it hurts after a while. While going raw ( with my bf of 3.5 yrs ) I don't like to have it for a long time either. I like the feeling of ( HIM )
I'm a woman who doesn't particularly like quickies. I don't go along with general statements, like "women like this" and "men like that," because you can find plently of people who don't go along with that general statement. I myself prefer the long, drawn out sex sessions. I mean, I'll have quickies and I'll take them when I get them, but I would much rather have the long, drawn out session than a quickie. And no, it isn't because it takes me a long time to orgasm. During masturbation and foreplay I reach orgasm in usually two minutes. And then again as soon as Master enters me. There's no "real" reason why I don't like quickies, except that I just don't.
I love quickies! I can orgasm within 30 seconds of penetration sometimes. Our quickies are usually done because we are worked up and only have a fleeting moment. I love the rawness of it and it is usually someplace unusual, the bathroom while others are outside or the laundry room while the kids are upstairs. We often will use a quickie as foreplay. Yes, dh will get me all hot and bothered and most times I come but sometimes he does it only to tease me for later.
I like quickies.
Sometimes it's nice not to have to go thru all the build up. Sometimes I'm already ready to go, foreplay not required. Different than just doing it myself, but the same goal to just get to the O.
It is important to me to have an O every time. Atleast one, but more is prefered during a long session. I figure it's my job to get me to O, it's his job not to finish before I do that.
That's a very "general" statement.
Hi Ariel, and welcome to the board.
I think quickies are great! Sometimes it's fun to give him a gift, other times, I'm ready to go, so a quickie allows for that release if we're in a hurry.
Think about all the things that you enjoy about quickies, all the feelings you feel, or the things you think and share those with him. Instead of trying to convince him that you don't have to "O" to have a good time, talk about the things that make you satisfied with the event.
I would recommend that he does some reading too. The site Sakura gave you a link to, the-clitoris.com, is an excellent place to start. It could be that he had previous partners who climaxed easily, or even faked it. As was already mentioned, he can help you get there, but he can't make it happen all by himself. Let him know that if he keeps pressuring you, then it's less likely to happen anyway.
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