Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...

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Registered: 04-03-2004
Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...
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Tue, 11-23-2004 - 9:51pm
I am so frustrated with my boyfriend because I have NOT had a orgasm in 3 MONTHS. When we do see each other I'm pmsing so we usually do anal sex, or I give him a bj, and I SUFFER. Well he promised tonight we would see each other because we were both off tomorrow and we could spend a lot of time together. Well he text messages me saying "baby im sick, my chest is hurting, blah blah blah." And i was sooooooooooooooooo mad bc all i could think is "OMG another month without sex." Next week i start my period so even if we see each other i wont get any. I know he cant help hes sick, but its like EVERY WEEK something comes up and we cant see each other and FINALLY when we do im pmsing. I feel neglected, unwanted, and just frustrated. Most men would want to have sex even if they were half dead. Since we started dating i went from 100 pounds to 120 pounds, and its all went to my thighs n butt. I feel fat and im wondering if hes not attracted to me. He said it wasnt that and he was attracted. But how am i suppose to feel when every time we are suppose to see each other and he cancels? I just feel unwanted. When he texted me, i got so upset, that i kept getting upset at work n crying. He said he would make it up to me and he was sorry and missed me. But i just feel neglected and i just feel like ripping his clothes off n taking advantage of him. We went from having sex every week to, hardly ever because of his 3 jobs. I CANNOT wait til he quits one of them. The only way he can make this up to me is by spending a entire weekend with me, pampering me, and paying attention to me. I feel like its unfair because I MAKE SURE he gets plenty of orgasms. He got some last week when we saw each other, but i didnt bc we didn't have time or space to have sex or for him to go down on me bc he had to go to work n we was in his car. So i gave him a bj bc i wanted him pleased. I just dont think hes making the effort to please me. What do you guys think? Am i over reacting or what?
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Registered: 12-14-2003
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 3:11pm
No offense to you or anything, but I highly doubt they'd approve the shot for birth control if it would sterilize women.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 3:54pm

I did


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Registered: 12-14-2003
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 4:21pm
Oh, I apologize. I thought you were implicating that the shot is unhealthy and could cause inferility. Sorry about the misunderstanding :)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 4:25pm
No problem, I re-read my other post and I should have put in *near* future instead of just future.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 8:56am

The 'shots' are Depo Provera, Depo for short. They're the same hormone that is in BCPs, as is Norplant. And all of *those* are synthetic copies of hormones you produce naturally when you're pregnant.

Here are all the various methods, broken done and with some info on each:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/bc/

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 8:57am
You don't have sex BEFORE your period???? Why do you only have anal or oral before you even start????
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 9:02am

I hope she's not planning on getting pregnant in the next few months with him! They need to get some other important things straightened out first.

18 months isn't that long to wait anyway, to try and conceive. Many couples take that long without having used Depo.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 9:10am
<<18 months isn't that long to wait anyway, to try and conceive. Many couples take that long without having used Depo>>

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 11:48am
Sounds like you're protesting way too much. You want to know why the divorce rate is so high? It's because people get married when they have serious problems thinking that it'll all work out. Those unresolved problems don't simply go away because you got married.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 12:01pm
You're right and the unresolved problems before marraige will only grow after marriage if they're not taken care of in the beginning.
~Tish
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