Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...
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Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...
| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 9:51pm |
I am so frustrated with my boyfriend because I have NOT had a orgasm in 3 MONTHS. When we do see each other I'm pmsing so we usually do anal sex, or I give him a bj, and I SUFFER. Well he promised tonight we would see each other because we were both off tomorrow and we could spend a lot of time together. Well he text messages me saying "baby im sick, my chest is hurting, blah blah blah." And i was sooooooooooooooooo mad bc all i could think is "OMG another month without sex." Next week i start my period so even if we see each other i wont get any. I know he cant help hes sick, but its like EVERY WEEK something comes up and we cant see each other and FINALLY when we do im pmsing. I feel neglected, unwanted, and just frustrated. Most men would want to have sex even if they were half dead. Since we started dating i went from 100 pounds to 120 pounds, and its all went to my thighs n butt. I feel fat and im wondering if hes not attracted to me. He said it wasnt that and he was attracted. But how am i suppose to feel when every time we are suppose to see each other and he cancels? I just feel unwanted. When he texted me, i got so upset, that i kept getting upset at work n crying. He said he would make it up to me and he was sorry and missed me. But i just feel neglected and i just feel like ripping his clothes off n taking advantage of him. We went from having sex every week to, hardly ever because of his 3 jobs. I CANNOT wait til he quits one of them. The only way he can make this up to me is by spending a entire weekend with me, pampering me, and paying attention to me. I feel like its unfair because I MAKE SURE he gets plenty of orgasms. He got some last week when we saw each other, but i didnt bc we didn't have time or space to have sex or for him to go down on me bc he had to go to work n we was in his car. So i gave him a bj bc i wanted him pleased. I just dont think hes making the effort to please me. What do you guys think? Am i over reacting or what?

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I know I'll get over it eventually and I'm glad I found out sooner than later. What bothers me the most is that he hasn't called. I want to be friends with him, but he hasn't even called. So I don't even know if he wants that, or even wants us to break up. The only way I would take him back is if hes been deathly sick, which I doubt. I think its best we take this break too bc he needs to get his life back together. He quit school for a semester and now hes saying he wont be going back til summer. So i dont know, i dont want to be with someone who doesnt have a degree. I've already ordered a new vibrator, and I do want to be friends with him. I just think Im better off not dealing with men (in my boyfriends case, little boys) for a while, especially with me in school bc im considering getting my doctorate. Besides most of the men I meet are immature.
Off subject but does anyone have problems with there vibrator making their fingers go numb? I use to use a silver bullet and it would make my fingers go numb after a while because of the vibrating.
Also about depo provera it took my friend a year n half before she could get pregnant, she was on it for 5 years. At first she had problems during her pregnancy, but that could have to do with age n other factors.
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That's not necessarily true.
>>College degree doesn't always equal more income. <<
Completely off topic now; They don't always mean that a person is particularly intelligent either. I think that I gained one of my degrees with an absolute minimum of intelligence. The trick is to find out what the people grading your papers have to think about a subject and then to regurgitate that stuff back at them in your papers.
You're right too. Having or not having a degree seems to make little difference to the success of an intelligent, sensible person. In my social circle it is split about half degrees and half not, and some of the wealthiest are the ones that don't have degrees. Life can be a funny thing.
>>OK, what I look for in a man is that he is intelligent and does not take the easy way out, and has a college degree. That is my preference, sorry if you don't like that, but I want someone who has goals and intelligence. I don't want a moron who took the easy way through out college (no offense to anybody that did)<<
Frankly, I DO take offense to being called a moron. It may surprise you to know that I do have goals and intelligence - and two degrees. What I was saying is that the education system doesn't measure intelligence very well. It is EASY for ANYONE to get a degree if they do the basic work. NOONE needs to be particulary intelligent to get a degree. I'm not saying whether or not that is a bad thing, or a good thing. I am merely making an observation. How about thinking before you type and insult someone next time?
Oh, BTW, my IQ is roughly 165 too.
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