Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...
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Why Wont He Put Out.. grrr...
| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 9:51pm |
I am so frustrated with my boyfriend because I have NOT had a orgasm in 3 MONTHS. When we do see each other I'm pmsing so we usually do anal sex, or I give him a bj, and I SUFFER. Well he promised tonight we would see each other because we were both off tomorrow and we could spend a lot of time together. Well he text messages me saying "baby im sick, my chest is hurting, blah blah blah." And i was sooooooooooooooooo mad bc all i could think is "OMG another month without sex." Next week i start my period so even if we see each other i wont get any. I know he cant help hes sick, but its like EVERY WEEK something comes up and we cant see each other and FINALLY when we do im pmsing. I feel neglected, unwanted, and just frustrated. Most men would want to have sex even if they were half dead. Since we started dating i went from 100 pounds to 120 pounds, and its all went to my thighs n butt. I feel fat and im wondering if hes not attracted to me. He said it wasnt that and he was attracted. But how am i suppose to feel when every time we are suppose to see each other and he cancels? I just feel unwanted. When he texted me, i got so upset, that i kept getting upset at work n crying. He said he would make it up to me and he was sorry and missed me. But i just feel neglected and i just feel like ripping his clothes off n taking advantage of him. We went from having sex every week to, hardly ever because of his 3 jobs. I CANNOT wait til he quits one of them. The only way he can make this up to me is by spending a entire weekend with me, pampering me, and paying attention to me. I feel like its unfair because I MAKE SURE he gets plenty of orgasms. He got some last week when we saw each other, but i didnt bc we didn't have time or space to have sex or for him to go down on me bc he had to go to work n we was in his car. So i gave him a bj bc i wanted him pleased. I just dont think hes making the effort to please me. What do you guys think? Am i over reacting or what?

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You're right I might not even marry the type of guy I'm looking for, but I don't want to be with the type of guys I have been dating. I realized I need a guy to call me every night, because I just need that, and I was not getting that with my ex. I was getting nothing from my ex except heartache, and I thought things would get better and it was temporary. I still don't know why he would do this, but I'm starting to believe he just lied all this time and was that fake. It hurts me when I think about it because I cared about him so much that its hard for me to move on with my life, I can't go a day or 4 hours without him passing through my mind.
I really don't want to date for awhile because when I'm with another guy I will be thinking about my ex. I know this is mean for me to say but I really hope that my ex gets what he deserves and I believe one day he will. I was thinking about driving to his house and talking to him, but Im scared I'll drive 2 hours for no reason, and if something did happen to me when I drive to see him, I'll be screwed so I decided to drop it. Whats hard is moving on when I feel like everything has been left unsettled. I try to stay busy but it doesn't seem to work. I managed to wrap all of my christmas and my parents in one night lol. Its just hard for me to move on, when I still love him and feel that things are not settled.
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