Why would a good guy marry a bad girl?
Find a Conversation
Why would a good guy marry a bad girl?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:07pm |
If you are a good guy (virgin or very few sex partners) how can you avoid getting connected to a bad girl (lot of sex partners)? It is unlikely that she will tell the truth about what she has done in the past, and since the past is our best predictor of the future, how do you avoid women who are likely to stray?

Pages
I still think the secret to a good marrage for a good guy is marring a good woman and good women generally have values that prevent them from having sex with a lot of different people. Most of the people that I know that have been married a long time married women that the met, dated, and fell in love with in their late teens or early twenties. The two guys that I mentioned whose wives left them to party have also remarried to good women and seem to have very good marriages. I am not saying it only that way, because I know of a woman that was a prostitute for a number of years that married and seems to have a good marriage. I think percentage wise the odds of success are higher when a good guy connects with a good girl for marriage.
There are no guarantees that any person will be completly faithful to another, so you are taking a chance with anyone you are in a relationship with. My advice is to go with your gut when it comes to choosing a mate and/or life partner. If you want to know what type of person you are getting involved with, there are tactful ways of learning more about their character. Ask them what they want out of life or where they seem themselves in five years.
Anne
Aids may just have been a wake up call, wait till the next disease rears up that cant be cured ( and it will)
I do belive this..Anyone can truley reform.
I got married young and had children young and a few years ago, I got the urge to find out what I'd missed in my younger days - clubbing, going out, etc. But DH and I used that to our advantage and went out together. Suddenly we had more time - the boys no longer needed sitters, we had extra $$$ now and then and free time - and we went out. Not every night, but a few times a month. We still do.
I think that it is great that you and DH are going out together to have new experiences and spend quality time with each other. Best wishes to you both.
Its kind of like those who are ignorant are ignorant of their ignorance.
I think there a lot better indicators of moral fibre then promiscuity. For example someone's job. I tend to think of people in, say marketing, as more likely to be immoral then someone who has had many sexual partners. I think many sexual partners can be an indicator of character or morality in certain ways. People with a lot of partners sometimes do that at the expense of others. For example guys that have a lot of partners often accomplish that by lying to potential partners and then treating them badly as the next step to aquiring a new partner. For either sex it can also indicate self esteem issues or a lack of value being placed on relationships. However, I still do not think that multiple partners in itself is immoral.
-phat
There was a poster not too long ago who said that he never knew what sex with love was like until he had it. So for his first ten years of sex, it was just sex to him. He didn't KNOW any differently. How can you know what you're missing, until you've experienced it? And what if they had relationships, but also had lots of casual sex in between? What would that tell you about them; that they can experience both?
You might be able to tell something about the character of the person by the amount of partner's they've had, but that knowledge would surface regardless. Of course, this was all hypothetical based on the situation I presented(remember there is no existence of STDs). Once you bring STD's into it, you now have a new criteria to judge someone's character based on numbers alone? How much self-respect do they possess? How high do they regard the safety of their bodies? So asking the numbers of a potential partner today isn't such a bad idea because it can help you assess the character(lacks self-respect) of that person. So for me, the number of sexual partners(assuming there were no gang bangs and such)(and STD's weren't in existence), wouldn't be used to judge a person's character. Ok, I'd probably think "Likes sex."
Edited 9/26/2004 12:18 am ET ET by life_is_but_a_dream
Pages