Why would a good guy marry a bad girl?
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Why would a good guy marry a bad girl?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:07pm |
If you are a good guy (virgin or very few sex partners) how can you avoid getting connected to a bad girl (lot of sex partners)? It is unlikely that she will tell the truth about what she has done in the past, and since the past is our best predictor of the future, how do you avoid women who are likely to stray?

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And now that those people are in their 30s and 40s, they are settled down, most are married, they have kids and are good parents, they believe in fidelity and trust. I could never look at a one of those people and think that they are immoral, unloving partners or bad parents, or not to be trusted.
I worked for a brief while with a woman whose parents had 'swung' for years. Apparently it wasn't really kept a secret. Both the son and daughter have decided against that particular lifestyle but are accepting of their parents' choice. I would dare anyone to look at that woman - or her brother - and say that those parents didn't do a good job raising them. They are both happy and well adjusted adults, each with a spouse and two children. The woman feels that what her parents do sexually is not any of her business. I agree, even though I am only having sex with my H, it's not shared with our kids. That is totally private and has nothing to do with parenting (other than creation,lol).
I also think that many teens and 20somethings aren't having unions but rather sex, in the great race to figure out who they are and what they want. A person can be outrageous in their behavior while they're still single but still be a good and faithful person when they meet the right one. A lot of experimentation goes on when people are single. I don't think that condemns them to a life of betrayal and broken trust.
On a consciense level you may just be having sex, but there are souls involved to be sure.
Again it depends on ones point of view. Acting immoral doesnt not necessarly make one a bad person......Tally I dont believe one has to sleep with lots of people to find themselves, but it happens. I think most younger people do a lot of things we older adults dont do "anymore" because as we matured we found out what was important to us . Ive said once before that what we did as young adults shouldnt really count..we were young, inexperienced, and naive.
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