Wicked sex experience :o)

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Wicked sex experience :o)
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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 12:34am

i just had the wickedest sex experience...
sex in the car
(not while driving, that's just dumb)

:o) im so happy ahahaha...

whenever you have great sex don't you just SMILE lol

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Registered: 11-14-2003
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 8:17pm
Dh and I used to have sex in his car all the time when we were dating. We would listen to Usher every time and now when I hear all the songs that played I can't help but smile. So I totally know what you mean shoegal.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 9:12pm

If you had wicked sex on Saturday night in the car, what are you so upset about him not being able to keep it hard on Friday, but then finally he did get it up on Friday the second time, but the third time he couldn't'.


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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 9:43pm

>>He's worn out<< This is what we've been trying to tell you over the past month or two that you've been posting about his erection problems.

Being worn out and not getting an erection IS NOT a serious issue. It's not even worthy of comment bewteen the two of you, let alone worrying out aloud.

Of course it won't go hard if it's being over used. Honestly Shoegal, he's been masturbating for years - and I'm sure he's well aware of his refractory period. Stop buying into his attention seeking behaviour.

Hon, if you don't believe what we tell you about his refractory period, please go and talk to a doctor or see a urologist

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 9:50pm

Well, if it wasn't a big deal then why was HE upset?? (rhetorical)

Yes we did it once Friday and once yesterday...that's worn out?

I think once or twice a week is enough, it's him who wants to keep going!

I'm always up for it but it's him who was upset about not being able to hold an erection on friday, it not me. I just felt bad for him and was wondering..what could I as his girlfriend, do or say to help.

Geese.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 10:25pm

Poptart/Shoegal

Yes, you were only asking...but why do you need to ask us so many times? Did you not believe us in previous posts?

Why was he upset? No, it's not rhetorical. You don't seem to get it. HE'S INDULGING IN CLASSIC ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIOUR. Let's look at it: He gets upset and you give him attention. He avoids doing anything about solving it, so the problem keeps happening. And you give him more attention. Still no problem solving on his behalf, problem happens again and more attention from you. Starting to see a pattern here? Hon, people that don't address their problems don't deserve sympathy.

Honestly, it's time for him him to stop moaning about it and either accept it or see a doctor.

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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 11:57pm

Yea I'm using a new account someone messed around with my old one..I need to close it.

Anyways.

>> HE'S INDULGING IN CLASSIC ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIOUR.<<

He wasn't WHINING about it or seeking attention though. He just looked disappointed in himself or something and kept saying I'm sorry. Saying I'm sorry isn't being an attention behaviour issue, I've known him for four years, I know what his temperament is and he's not an attention seeker. And the only thing I did in response to his trouble with it was try to ease his mind about by saying It's okay, it's nothing. We didn't go on for hours about it or anything. It was a 5-10 minute thing. We talked about it. It was over and fine. The only confusing part, even to me, is how he was worried about it Friday and then ready to go Saturday.

The way I see it the only problem that I'm finding is he's trying to be superman a little bit, you know what I mean? I don't think it's happened to him before and I think we was a bit embarrassed about it which is understandable. Comforting my boyfriend when he's upset isn't supporting attention-seekign behaviour, I just don't agree with that.

I'm not asking so many times! I'm talking about it because I don't know what to do! I'm not him and I'm trying to get ideas on how to deal with this myself too! This isn't a personal problem, it involves me too in a way.

>>You don't seem to get it.<<

OKAY I understand that you're saying IT'S NOTHING but those other times it was because he was worn out (as you all suggested) But this time it wasn't because of that. He wasn't tired. We hadn't had sex in over 4 days. He said he hadn't felt stressed at all. He felt good. He was in the mood...and then he couldn't hold an erection.

If you think this is a baby situation, ignore it honestly.
I'm listening to what you're all saying, trust me. But you're not answering my question by repeating that "IT'S NORMAL AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT."

Anyways, this has been a back and fourth call and really I'm trying to be sensitive to him as he's sensitive to me when I'm almost in tears because of pain from endometriosis for example (don't worry I'm not being an attention-seeker) THEREFORE...It's nothing and I'll reccommend him to read up on some stuff.

Wow! Finito!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 12:51am

OK, you hadn't had sex for 4 days....but perhaps he masturbated on Thursday and won't admit it. Unless you are with him 24/7, then you don't know for sure what's going on.

I will answer your question - what can you do to help him?

The long and short of it is that there is nothing you can do. If it concerns him, he should see a doctor. If it doesn't concern him enough to see a doctor, then it's not an issue. Please also remember that none of us are doctors. If you feel that he may have a real medical problem, then seek medical advice.




Edited 11/22/2004 12:53 am ET ET by iv_aisha2004
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 7:08am

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