Wife and I want Threesome

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wife and I want Threesome
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 2:14pm

Hello
My wife and I are looking to do our first threesome. We both enjoy talking about it when having sex, and she really gets off talking about it. She has picked out a guy that she says does IT for her; they’ve made out and have done some light touching and rubbing. Here is the thing she wants to go to bed with him first and enjoy him without me, and then introduce me into the act later. Now this excites me to no end and she knows it. Should I allow her to do this alone at first and then join in, or should I insist on being there the first time? We are both open with each other and express our desires with one another. She say’s she will tell me everything that happens afterwards…..DO I LET THIS HAPPEN…

AROUSED AT THE THOUGHT!

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:44am
IF he doesn't want a threeway so be it, well find someone else. No I DON"T want to be with another GUY I"M NOT GAY . I do want to watch her take it from another guy though. So you IMPLYING I"M GUY is Incorrect.
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 12:15pm

All I would add is; Women, unlike men can easily form an emotional bond/attachment to someone if the sex is good.

That's one reason why it's better to remain fantasy, in the fantasy she's always ready to come back and be your slut. In reality, her emotions can and probably will do unpredictable things.

 

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 12:22pm
Not in this case, or I hope not. This guy is 29 she's 41 with two kids. I don't think she would walk because of good sex. She has that already.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 12:54pm

cerryl was not saying she might walk because of "good sex". The point is that sex can lead to emotional ties... she may develope feelings for him and want more then just sex, she might also develop the desire to have a relationship with him. Being 41 and having kids wouldn't stop that.

I'm not saying she will do so, just that fantasy can be very different from reality and it's risky.

I also find it interesting that you say she already has good sex. If so, then why does she want to have sex with another man? Especially without you in the room at first?

Ever see that "what if" episode of Friends where it was "what if" Carol hadn't left Ross for her lesbian lover? And in it, they hadn't had sex for a long time so Ross suggests a threesome to stir things up... Carol jumps on the idea but when it comes time for it, the girls go into the bedroom alone and Ross is left to do nothing? Finally, he realizes whats going on, that his wife is a lesbian and they had no intention of including him in their so-called "threesome".

Now, I'm not trying to talk you out of it. I know that just because I don't understand the desire to see your partner having sex with someone else doesn't make everyone who does enjoy it wrong. But like I said, things like this are risky and you appear to be jumping in head first without thinking things like this through very well or discussing them with your wife.

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 1:07pm
We have thought this though for that last three years we’ve discussed this. I’m the one who started it she didn’t want to try it. Now we’ve found someone and we are going for it. The first time she will do him alone in our Home the next time with both of us. It’s as simple as that. I told her to screw him as many times as she wants it’s ok by me. We are both very open with each other and have nothing to hide. We both understand this is ONLY SEX
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:02pm
Okay, so why are you asking the opinions of a bunch of strangers if you're so sure this is the right thing to do? Why do you care?
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:07pm
I don’t care what you all think, besides I wanted info from someone who actually has had a threesome. Thanks everyone for your input.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:09pm
Happens all the time.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:09pm
That's your opinion I think it's very hot and so does she. I'm not blowing the guy and he's not going to come in her either.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:16pm

You may want to check out the taboos board, they're more into the lifestyle you're about to throw your marriage into.

 

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