Wife and I want Threesome

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wife and I want Threesome
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 2:14pm

Hello
My wife and I are looking to do our first threesome. We both enjoy talking about it when having sex, and she really gets off talking about it. She has picked out a guy that she says does IT for her; they’ve made out and have done some light touching and rubbing. Here is the thing she wants to go to bed with him first and enjoy him without me, and then introduce me into the act later. Now this excites me to no end and she knows it. Should I allow her to do this alone at first and then join in, or should I insist on being there the first time? We are both open with each other and express our desires with one another. She say’s she will tell me everything that happens afterwards…..DO I LET THIS HAPPEN…

AROUSED AT THE THOUGHT!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 9:12pm
Let it go, kat. I can see that glint in your eye and I know what you're up to. ;-)
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 1:19am
glad to hear that it workded : ) and it seems every enjoyed themselves. Main thing now is to continue talking, heep your relationship healthy, and make emotions are managed so that she does not start 'falling in love' with him.
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Registered: 05-15-2006
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 8:17am
No Not at all. What turned me on was how he was giving it to my wife. He was huge, she was cumming all ove the place. She even started squirting and I've never seen that. We did some DP and she went wild. We are going to hook up again this weekend.I can't wait.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:55am

Hi, I just read this whole thread and I'm SO glad this worked out for you!

Me and my SO got involved with another couple 6 weeks ago. They are VERY close friends of ours (even closer now lol!!)It started out the 4 of us together with no swapping for sex, then the 4 of us together and we did have sex with the other person's partner, then the next time we tried it all together the guys couldn't stay errect unless we were in seperate rooms. So since then we swap and spend the whole night in the seperate room with the other person (me with the other woman's husband, and my SO with her.) We plan to go back to having 4somes sometime but we don't know if it'll happen. It has been wonderful but let me tell you with sex that amazing it is very hard for emotions to stay out of it. The couple we're with are older than me and SO, and married, and there's no way me or my SO would ever want to leave each other for the other man/woman. I am secure because the woman is no where near my bf's type so it is just good sex. Same with me, the other guy is not my usual type but we have amazing sex. But we have started to have a strong emmotional connection, but not necessarily in a bad way as long as I try to keep control of my feelings. He is also the only guy to ever make me squirt and it is hard for both of us to keep our feelings out of it. In the heat of the moment we almost feel like we're falling in love but we have to remind ourselves that is just because we're lusting over each other so much and because the sex is so amazing. I would reccommend just talking about everything a LOT with your wife. Me and SO have different and new feelings each week after something happens, and same with the other couple, and the only way we can keep it working is to keep talking it out.

Just thought I'd share my story!! For all the critics out there, this CAN work.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:07am

I just thought it was curious as that was the first thing you mentioned, NOT how your wife was reacting to it.

Glad it worked out. Hope it continues to work out.

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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:10am
Maybe it can for those FEW, RARE people. However, as you yourself cautioned, it takes effort and discipline for feelings NOT to come into play when you share intimate physical acts repeatedly with another person. Particularly for women. That should tell you something.


Edited 5/18/2006 11:13 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:15am
Yes, it tells me that with effort and disipline, and love and dedication to your partner it can work. It is worth the effort, as long as each person puts their partner first above the third/fourth person.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:23am

You're forgetting that there is a 3rd or 4th party's feelings, etc. to contend with though. And you have no control over their feelings and attachments.

There are just so many dynamics & variables that ARE out of your conscious control that there are never any guarentees when it comes to inviting others into your sex life. This is a huge gamble no matter how you slice it. Good luck to you both.

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:28am
I know I thought that too, but I was a little shocked when I saw him. I thought things like that only existed in Pornos…. Horse sized. I didn't think she would be able to take him...but she took every inch of him...
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Registered: 05-18-2006
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 1:25pm
My X and I use to have a 3 some regularly with a friend of ours and it was the most erotic thing we have ever done but I was always there. I would let him have her 1st and then we would do her at least 3 times each. She would trade off giving us head and P at the same time some of the time and some times we would just watch each other boff her. She woul MO at least twenty times. We would stay up all night and sleep the next day. When we woke we would do her 1 last time. it was unbelievabl, we would have cum all over the place. She was a squirter to top it off and the sheets would be wringing wet by the time we were done.. I say go for it..I wish I could get my current girlfriend involved but she won't.

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