Wife and I want Threesome

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wife and I want Threesome
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 2:14pm

Hello
My wife and I are looking to do our first threesome. We both enjoy talking about it when having sex, and she really gets off talking about it. She has picked out a guy that she says does IT for her; they’ve made out and have done some light touching and rubbing. Here is the thing she wants to go to bed with him first and enjoy him without me, and then introduce me into the act later. Now this excites me to no end and she knows it. Should I allow her to do this alone at first and then join in, or should I insist on being there the first time? We are both open with each other and express our desires with one another. She say’s she will tell me everything that happens afterwards…..DO I LET THIS HAPPEN…

AROUSED AT THE THOUGHT!

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 4:34pm
Best of luck to you!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 4:39pm
SO agree, Rain. The writing is on the wall for the majority of couples who get involved in this lifestyle. Unfortunately, everyone of them believes that they have it all figured out and won't be one of the statistics. The odds say otherwise.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 4:41pm

Nope, sorry. What I value, I protect and nurture. And my DH and I value our marriage too much to turn it over to chance. No, we protect what is precious to us.

When we want more spice & variety in our sex life, we turn to one another, not to someone else, to provide that.

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 8:09am
I don't want another woman, I have my baby.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 9:50am
I think it's pretty narrow minded to imply that people who participate in this "lifestyle" don't value their marriage/relationship. We are in this lifestyle, but we also protect what is precious to us, just as much as you do, believe it or not.

 

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Avatar for ukgirl82
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Registered: 09-17-2005
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 11:42am

"No risk hear at all except getting pregnant...."

That brings up an interesting issue. I know your wife is 43 but clearly she's still able to have children. If your wife became pregnant from one of your threesomes, how would you feel knowing that the child might belong to someone else? Would she have an abortion? Would she have the baby and raise it as your child even if it's not? Or would she raise it as the other guys kid? What would you tell your current children? Have you dicussed the possibilities of this with your wife and the other man?

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 12:10pm
We would raise the child as our own, she been talking about another baby so that would be fine.
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Registered: 09-17-2005
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 1:04pm
And you'd have no problem at all raising a child that is biologically your wife's with another other man? What happens if some day the other man decides he wants to raise his biological child? What happens if the child ever finds out your not his father?
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Registered: 01-14-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 1:12pm
To each his own, I guess.
When I was attempting to work things out with my first wife
she insisted there was "something wrong" with my considering
reciprocation in finding somebody for my own enjoyment on the side.
I asked her what she planned to tell our children, particularly our son,
when it all came out in the wash and she took the attitude that it was none of their business.
Our relationship ended at that point.
Later it seems that her Mr. "Big" wasn't able to provide for her financially, in spite of his highly revered talents.
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Registered: 05-15-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 1:37pm
Nope no problem what so ever. The other guy will never know it's his he doesn't have to know. Besides who says he'll get her pregnant, Maybe I will.

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