Wife wont trim bush?? Help!

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Wife wont trim bush?? Help!
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 3:27pm
My wife for some reason does not feel the need to shave, trim or whatever to her pubes....any ideas on how to get her to re-consider?? I trim mine short.
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 3:53pm

She might not feel the need to because there is no need to shave or trim.


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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 4:36pm
have you offered to do it for her? i've been with a few guys that wouldn't do it themselves, but were ok with me trimming them. start out with trimming as most won't let you go there with a razor right off. also, maybe you should do a trade...is there something she really wants in bed or out that you are hesitant to provide? if she's adamant just drop it.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 4:36pm

For some reason? I would assume the reason is that she doesn't WANT to....and that's her right. You want to trim yours......fine, do it.

I can understand her, because I've tried it out of curiousity, and I hated it. I hated how it felt, I hated that it would have to be done frequently, and I have more important things to do with my time.

Other than during oral sex, I can't see why you would care one way or another. And, since "shaving" and "trimming" is a new fad......men have been giving oral to unshaven women for thousands of years! If you'd asked a woman to shave 50 years ago, you'd have been branded a pervert!

Maybe she'd agree to it if you volunteered to do it for her, including the upkeep!

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:55am
I was unshaven -- untrimmed even -- for the first 27 years of my life. My bf asked me to shave it all off so I did and for about the past year I haven't had any hair there. I would never go back, under any circumstances. Even though keeping it smooth is a bit of a chore.
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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:59am

Much as the others have said, ultimately it is her choice and if she doesn't want to, then she doesn't want to. I'm a bit surprised that you've gotten as far as marrying her and only just discovered that she isn't interested in doing it.

I suppose that you could talk to her and make it clear (but gently) that it's important to you and you would like her to at least try doing it. There is after-all, a certain amount of give and take in any relationship, and she may do it for you. But it may just be a matter that you don't see eye-to-eye about.

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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 8:29am

I'm going to assume that by your post, that you've already expressed your desire to her (since you want her to re-consider). Is it really that important to you? Sure relationships are about give and take, but I would weigh that in the context of "overall" attitude. There are some things that we just would not like to compromise on. If she's fairly flexible and pleasing overall(which I'm also assuming since you married her), then why not accept that she just may be not willing to compromise on this? Why does EVERYTHING have to be a compromise?

I can't see what the big deal is about trimming though (unless what you're suggesting is with a trimmer -- in that case it can be uncomfortable if it's too short -- longer is much more softer).

You can always do the compromising as well. Sometimes we make the sacrifices rather than asking it of our SO so that *their* happiness comes before ours. I'm sure she's done that for you too (and you may not even be aware of it). Ask yourself, is this really that important?

People are doing what it is that they like best most times. This is likely the way she likes it. Why not respect that it's her body, and she should have the freedom to choose how she is most comfortable in it. I think that the less demands we make on each other, the happier we are together, no? Allow each other the freedom to be who you want to be.....




Edited 7/6/2006 8:43 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:04am
Your bush is yours, hers is hers. What's not to get here? If she likes hers long, you shouldn't be trying to pressure her to trim them. If you ask and she says no, for whatever reason, that should be the end of it. Unless she ASKED you to trim yours, and you complied for her, then you don't have a leg to stand on in this argument. Sorry.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:36am
Why not have a fun wager - if you win, you get to trim her and is she wins she gets you to do anything she wants for 2 hours or whatever. Make it fun and maybe start the betting slow then build up to the haircut. That's how I introduced getting a haircut down there. I won a bet and had a "personal pleasure two minutes" well I told her to get the hair clipper and to give me a haircut. Well later in the game, she won and asked for a haircut. Wow, I was amazed! If I wouldn't have put the idea in her head - she would have never initiated it. We have small bets to keep things exciting and to continue to communicate and open up. When you win a bet it gives you an opening to do something new. We are not the type to say, hey let me shave your privates. But, winning a bet, you ask what would you like?
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Registered: 03-10-2006
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:05pm
The only way i can see you ever getting your wife to re-consider is to offer her something in return. Is there anything that she would love in return? Ask her. Also, do you trim yours for her or for you. If you do it for her then it is only fair for her to do the same for you. If she has never tried shaving before, i strongly suggest she does. I had never shaved before i met my boyfriend and he asked me to shave it ALL OFF!!!!! So i did, just to please him and see what it was like. And now i can't be unshaven. Continue to ask her and encourage her but do not be pushy and if she strongly objects, drop it. There's not alot you can do if she really does not want to shave.
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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:34pm
You've got to be able to talk about it. Believe it or not, it will bring you closer to each other.