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Will this hurt his feelings?
| Tue, 10-26-2004 - 7:57pm |
My boyfriend loves to go down on me, EVERY single time we have sex he HAS to go down on me. The problem is, I don't know why, but I've never liked oral sex, either doing it or having it done to me. And he wants to do it for at least 20 minutes, and at least a couple of times every time we have sex. We really care about each other, and I care about his feelings and I have been willing to take it just to please him because he also puts a lot of work to please me in other ways when we have sex.
So what I wanted to ask you people is up to what point should someone give in to something you don't enjoy at all just to make the other person happy. Should I just take it and deal with it? I know, it's not like I'm gonna die from oral sex, and I don't wanna hurt his feelings by telling him I don't like it cuz he thinks I do. Any advice?
So what I wanted to ask you people is up to what point should someone give in to something you don't enjoy at all just to make the other person happy. Should I just take it and deal with it? I know, it's not like I'm gonna die from oral sex, and I don't wanna hurt his feelings by telling him I don't like it cuz he thinks I do. Any advice?

Relationships are about give, take and compromise.
It sounds as if your BF isn't just doing this for you but for himself as well. Perhaps this arouses him since many men find it erotic. IF that's the case, it wouldn't be necessary to ask him to stop completely but maybe just shorten the duration before intercourse SOMETIMES.
IF he's doing it primarily because he believes you are aroused by it or because you expect it, then ask him to stimulate you some other way that you enjoy more. I don't see why he would be hurt by that since you don't want him to waste his time on cunnilingus with no positive result.
Do you perform orally for him even though it's not your favorite activity?
Edited 10/29/2004 5:09 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001