Will it ever get better?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2008
Will it ever get better?
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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 3:07pm

I want to know some opinions on whether my sexual life will ever improve.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2006
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 9:58pm

Reading that is sounds like me! My family never do that sort of stuff, and ive never really been in a proper relationship - even the one im in now,ive been in for alost 2 years.. its hard he lives far away and has kids. i also had problems which made me not want to show as much affection as what i would have liked. Maybe she will change or maybe she wont. If it has been this long, maybe she isnt going to change ?

Im guessing she may just not be a very sexual person as you have said. You sound like you're doing everything you can to make her happy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 3:30am

Please Please Please go and visit the Mismatched libido board.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 8:56pm

Hi Misty


I was pleased that you mentioned staying away from religious counselors.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:41am
The pill did the same thing to me, and I didn't realize it until after I was off the pill. I just thought I didn't want to have sex with my hubby......Which my libido now isn't real high, but it's ALOT better than when I was on the pill.
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Registered: 06-11-2008
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 1:28pm

I want to thank you all for your words on this matter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 2:08pm
I do want to wish you Good Luck! I really hope it works out for you. You sound like a wonderful man, I hope she realizes that.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 5:53pm

Many couples fall into this sort of rut after having kids, so there are some resources for what works for them out there. Having been there myself, I will say, it's a long, difficult road, and there is no "one size fits all" answer. It depends on the couple, it depends on what led to the problems, and it depends on what else is going on in your life.

That being said, there are some fairly new things that have been put as challenges to couples, and most couples are finding that if they stick to them, they really do help them out. One is a challenge to have sex every day for 30 days, the other for 101 days. Since frequent sex usually helps with desire, this might be something that works for you.

Here's a recent clip about a couple who challenged themselves to 101 days:

http://video.ivillage.com/player/?id=262480

Here's another link where Dr. Gail Saltz takes a look at the recent news topic of couples having sex every night to improve their intimacy.

http://gailsaltz.ivillage.com/love/archives/2008/06/sex-every-night.html

Keep us posted on how things are going for you, or ask advice along the way. Sometimes finding new things to try, or ways to spice things up can be helpful too. The members here are full of ideas to share.



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