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| Wed, 06-11-2008 - 3:07pm |
I want to know some opinions on whether my sexual life will ever improve.
| Wed, 06-11-2008 - 3:07pm |
I want to know some opinions on whether my sexual life will ever improve.
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Reading that is sounds like me! My family never do that sort of stuff, and ive never really been in a proper relationship - even the one im in now,ive been in for alost 2 years.. its hard he lives far away and has kids. i also had problems which made me not want to show as much affection as what i would have liked. Maybe she will change or maybe she wont. If it has been this long, maybe she isnt going to change ?
Im guessing she may just not be a very sexual person as you have said. You sound like you're doing everything you can to make her happy.
Please Please Please go and visit the Mismatched libido board.
Hi Misty
I was pleased that you mentioned staying away from religious counselors.
I want to thank you all for your words on this matter.
Many couples fall into this sort of rut after having kids, so there are some resources for what works for them out there. Having been there myself, I will say, it's a long, difficult road, and there is no "one size fits all" answer. It depends on the couple, it depends on what led to the problems, and it depends on what else is going on in your life.
That being said, there are some fairly new things that have been put as challenges to couples, and most couples are finding that if they stick to them, they really do help them out. One is a challenge to have sex every day for 30 days, the other for 101 days. Since frequent sex usually helps with desire, this might be something that works for you.
Here's a recent clip about a couple who challenged themselves to 101 days:
http://video.ivillage.com/player/?id=262480
Here's another link where Dr. Gail Saltz takes a look at the recent news topic of couples having sex every night to improve their intimacy.
http://gailsaltz.ivillage.com/love/archives/2008/06/sex-every-night.html
Keep us posted on how things are going for you, or ask advice along the way. Sometimes finding new things to try, or ways to spice things up can be helpful too. The members here are full of ideas to share.
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