Willingness and Lube, but nothing
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| Fri, 07-11-2008 - 6:54am |
In response to the oral and south of the border post I had. Needless to say, we have been busy and tired and it is hard for us to just stop and have sex. But last night he made the comment about 'filling the hole' or something along the lines. So I said, OK, got the lube out and was ready. After I had DD I was told it would be very difficult to atempt anal. (tore...blah blah blah) Either way, tons of lube, totally relax, couldnt do it. We tried all sorts of positions. Any advice on positions. We tried spooning which we had the best of lluck, but still not that much. We tried doggie, both on knees and laying down on belly. Even missionary. No luck...anything?? I was caught by surprise when he said that because he has never mentioned it before. But want to try it again... Let me know if you have any ideas!!!

I think the best time to try anal is after you have already been having sex and are very, very aroused. Also, if he isn't at his full hardness, or he has already had one orgasm, he'll not be as anxious.
I know a lot of the members on the boards recommend that you prepare yourself for anal (or he can prepare you) by using things like butt plugs with graduated sizes. Essentially, working yourself up to take larger and larger objects over a period of time. You can also use fingers, starting with just one and working your way up to two or three. This can be a slow process, but one that has worked for many.
As you may have read on some of my other posts, I'm familiar with several positions anal sex. DH and I probably engage in anal sex for about 85% to 90%