woman on top

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Registered: 12-09-2003
woman on top
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Mon, 01-16-2006 - 6:42pm
So, I'm kind of inexperienced as far as sex goes. My guy and I were both virgins until about 3 monthes ago. The sex is really good, and I don't have any problems with orgasm. However, my boyfriend keeps saying "i think you'd like it better on top; you have more control that way." Well, he does a pretty good job with speed and penetration, so I'm not complaining. But, I think he really wants me to be on top at least some of the time, but I can't do it. I've tried so many different ways and angles. When I'm on top it feels like he's too deep inside of me and I can't really move the way I want; I just feel stuck. My boyfriend seems to think I don't want to do it because I'm self-conscience. But, that's not it at all; I'd do it if it didn't hurt and I could move more easily. Does anyone have any tips to help me make this position more enjoyable? Thanks.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: sweetburn19
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 11:46pm

He's right, you're in control when you're on top. If he's penetrating too deeply, then move yourself back a little so he can't.

Leave the "speed and penetration" to him. That's not what you want to do. Straddle him on your knees, NOT your heels. Find a postion that's comfortable for you, and then just start moving your hips and pelvis slowly, side to side, front to back and/or in a circular motion.....grinding into him. If you get the right rhythm, you can do it forever.

Most women, once they learn how, love being on top. Like anything else worthwhile, it takes practice.