Woman on top- Help?

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Registered: 11-14-2007
Woman on top- Help?
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:09pm

Hey...


Ok, so I've been dating my guy for about a year. We try different positions, but he won;t try toys or anything, so we aren't very sexually experimentive.


Recently he keeps asking me to go on top. I can count on one

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:46pm
Welcome to the board, missdee24.



First off, you do need to work on that confidence. He's likely asking you to be on top because he enjoys watching you -- and no matter how you feel about yourself, it's not how he feels. I'm sure he is very turned on watching you, and second, he wants you to learn this position because for most women, it is amazing! Many women can only have an orgasm while on top.



Here are some links that will teach you a bit more about the position, and some variations of the position:



Hot Tips for Women on Top




How to Master the Woman on Top Position



You on Top: The sexiest Mattress Moves of All




Our Favorite WOT Sex Positions



You can also practice these by straddling a pillow or two. If you're nervous about him watching you, ask him to leave the lights off, perhaps play some music so you can get your thoughts lost, and try to enjoy the sensations that you are feeling.




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Registered: 03-15-2006
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 6:15am
I remember many, many years ago when DW first ventured on top.

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 7:20pm
I remember feeling the exact same way when I first started doing WOT. He was my first as well and my sexual confidence was pretty low, as far as that went. Turning off the lights will definitely help and those links Misty gave you are really full of information. Just remember, he finds you sexy and you don't have to put so much pressure on yourself to "perform" while on top. Grinding instead of bouncing will feel a lot better for you and it all just takes time to get used to doing something new. Good luck!

 

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Registered: 11-21-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 8:49pm
I was nervous with this position for a long time. It's still kind of difficult b/c there isn't a lot of thrust while you straddle someone. I, personally, don't get why it's so many women's favorite. But it can be rather enjoyable and it's sexy. My suggestion for practicing taking the lead before doing the traditional WOT (and, I actually like having sex like this better) is to have sex with your guy while he is sitting in a chair or on the couch. This way you can practice getting your own rhythms a lot easier and at a more intimate, less exposed angle, that's still really hot. Just staddle him and kind of grind away...your chest will also be at at the perfect height to his face, so if you're uncomfortable about your stomach or something, you will know he's definitely not thinking about that with breasts directly in front of his face (giving you some more time to develop body confidence).
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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:11pm
Welcome to the board, kta333, and thanks for joining in. That's great advice as a way to get more comfortable with WOT!




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Registered: 10-15-2006
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 12:45am

Hi missdee,


I feel so useless, I have no idea what I am doing.


Misty had wonderful advice for you as did many others. I think you are feeling as if your BF is expecting some sort of a performance when all he wants, more than likely, is to please you.


WOT is an intimidating position for some women. I agree that perhaps you should turn out the lights until you find it more comfortable.


I find it to be a powerful position as I feel that I have the control. If this makes you

Mrs P

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 9:20am

You're making the mistake that a lot of beginners make.

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 9:30am
That was a very powerful post, makes me wish I were a woman.........on top.

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Thu, 11-22-2007 - 9:36am

>>>Your BF may have more experience but he has no experience with you. The two of you can discover together what it is that

 Rich, good to the last drop