woman on top... not so good

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Registered: 06-30-2005
woman on top... not so good
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:33am
ok well... he enjoys woman on top... but for me its not so good. Any advice on making it feel better for me

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:38am

What's not good about it?

I choose not to be on top because it 1) hurts my knees and 2) makes me too self-conscious to have him look up and see all my flab!

Blessings -

Liz

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:43am

Without knowing what you're doing, or how you're doing it, it's hard to say why it's not good for you. If you get it right, it will be good for you....so good you might not let him on top again!

First, it takes practice. Just like learning to ride a two wheeler.....you just don't jumo on it and ride away.......you have to work at it to get good at it.

First, don't "squat" on your heels. KNEEL. Second, don't try to imitate a man, and bounce up and down. That's too hard on your legs, and it lets his penis fall out if you're not careful. Third, kneel, lower yourself onto him, and get comfortable just sitting there. Put your hands on your thighs to balance yourself. Then slowly start rotating or thrusting your hips.....slowly and sensuously. Grind into him. You'll get clitoral stimulation that way, and if you're doing it right, you'll get some "g" spot stimulation, too.

Keep practicing, and you'll figure out what feels best, and you'll love it.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:32am
Oh but sometimes if you DO put your heels flat and kinda squat and open your knees wayyyyy up wide, you get a WHOLE NEW pleasure. Variation at times is fun!

 

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:19am
just keep at it. it is awkward at first. you could try laying flat on top until you get comfortable with it
Amanda
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:43pm

when you are on top, sit on your knees, position yourself so his penis is hitting your gspot and start grinding into him, back and forth, back and forth...you can also do circular motions grinding.
What's not to love about it? hehe

It's my fav. position... i love to see his face, the way he is enjoying himself, how he grabs my breast....i love to tease him when i'm on top (sitting on his d**k, but not all the way)... anyway, it's alot of fun!!!

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:13pm
Besides what everyone else suggested, I like to get on all fours and back onto and off of him. In this position, I can kiss his mouth and body and he can kiss my breasts too.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 4:27pm
Breast stimulation is one of the best things about being on top. Are you guiding him to your breasts? This will add much to your pleasure.
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Registered: 08-04-2005
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:46am
AMEN TO THAT!!!!
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 9:34am

I tried this position with an ex and he was ALWAYS complaining that I was not doing it right. So I gave up trying and hated that position. It always caused arguments and it was a turn off.
I have a new guy with who I feel more comfortable and I have tried again. He does not care whether or not I am doing it right, he is very nice. So, he does not say anything but I know that I am still doing it incorrectly. My question to any of you is: should I move up and down? or back and forth?. I really don't know, I cannot picture my anatomy to accomodate him.
I am jealous of women who can master this position. I really find it very difficult.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:42am

"Doing it right".......is any way that is comfortable for you, and that feels GOOD to you. That fool that complained, I'm GLAD he's your ex! There is NO right or wrong....and if he didn't like what you were doing, then instead of complaining, he should have told you what he wanted you to do. Any guy that would tell a woman during sex that she's "not doing it right"......but then says nothing more.....he's an idiot!

In MOST cases, WOT is for the pleasure of the woman......the man gets pleasure, but it's more visual than physical. Most men I've been with don't reach a climax with me on top, but they can just lay there and relax, and watch YOU enjoying yourself.

Do not get "hung up" on right or wrong......just do what feels good to you, and seeing the pleasure you're having will please him, too.

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