Women and high heels

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Women and high heels
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:15am
Ladies, do you believe a woman who wears 4"-5" high heels has more of a sexual appetite and/or is more likely to have no strings attached sex than a woman who wears "reasonable" shoes?

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:41am
IMO, I don't think a woman wearing 4-5" heels necessarily wears them to have more of a sexual appetite or and has no strings attached. I, myself, have a pair or two of shoes with about 4" heels, and when I wear them, it isn't so much that I'm out looking for a fun time and that's it. I wear them because they make ME feel and look taller, thinner, and sexier. I think more women wear the higher heels for self esteem reasonings versus sexual reasonings. And it's probably a higher number than the public thinks. Hope that helps. ;)
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 12:03pm

I agree with the other member. I also think there's a huge difference between wanting to feel sexy and actually having sex. I love to wear high heels and always have. It's never made me more likely to have sex with someone.

So, I give the theory a thumbs down.

Are you researching this for a particular reason?



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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 2:38pm

Nope, I see no connection between high heels and women who wear them having more of a sexual appetite.

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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 4:15pm

Hi

I have a high sex drive and I love my heels lol can't say I'd go for no
strings attached.. I wear them to feel sexy and taller. lol yea I'm short.
I also agree with the other ladies.

Kareese

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 4:47pm

Shoes! They are as good as currancy to me! No I don't think one has anything to do with the other.

I loved high heels and wore them exclusively for years. Now that I'm married to a short fella ( I'm 5'11, he's 5"6 ) I rarely wear more than 2" heel. He has probubly done more ( by being short ) to save my feet, ankles, knees and most of all my spine from unnecessary problems that come with heels over time. I think I have a pretty strong sex drive and I only wear resonable shoes.

As for strings, no one has or ever will have sex with me without any strings attached and that's irrespective of what I'm wearing.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 6:38pm

Jason, perhaps you mean 7" heels not 4-5" heels. I have these exact shoes in nude and I wear them to work all of the time (as well as similar shoes).

http://www.fredericks.com/product/shoes+accessories+jewelry+hosiery/shoes/pumps-stilettos/snake+print+leather+slingback.do

I would say that they have a 4" heel, easy (no pun intended). I assure you that I'm not easy and there is no way that I am trying to convey that message to any of the men I work with. I like to dress nicely, and the shoes are the one accessory that pulls things all together. If I'm wearing a pair of slacks, I like to wear heels or boots underneath. I'm not really a flats type of person. Believe it or not, if I wear flats, my back bothers me....not so when I wear heels. BTW, my husband and everyone call me "Imelda." ;-)

Perhaps these are what you are talking about:

http://www.thereddoorstore.com/lingerie/7-12-heel/

But even then, it could just be that she's fashionable. I guess it might be akin to a man wearing an expensive watch. Does that mean that he's looking for no strings attached sex? Oh, wait...of course he is....what man isn't? tee hee (joking).




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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:42pm

I have a friend who wears high heels and even high boots with heels (the classic "F' me" boot). She is choosy who she sleeps with and I suspect that she is actually fairly conservative in bed.

Yes, she likes looking good and looking sexy and she is a terrible flirt, but I don't think that looking and feeling sexy and good necessarily means that a woman is looking for no-strings sex or has a larger sexual appetite than average. Of course a woman looking for sex will often dress to attract a man, and that often includes high heels, but wearing heels doesn't mean that its a foregone conclusion by any means.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:25pm
Whatever the reason, ladies, please keep wearing them! I love them! Especially the open, strappy ones.
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:33pm
Welcome to the board funhubby. Thanks for joining in.


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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:08pm
It's a funny question. I never wore heels before dating my current bf. Now I wear very high ones on every date, unless we're going running together. He is a full foot taller than me, and I often wear very high ones partially out of practicality but more so because I know it's what he likes. Sort of a symbol of, take care of me, I'm very feminine and worth having around, and you're way more than like to get lucky later if you are nice to me. All around, they are just super. Everyone says I look amazing these days ... including my ex-husband lol. Definitely a good thing to have in bed too, but careful because the heels can be reallllly sharp!!!

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