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| Thu, 04-13-2006 - 11:46pm |
Not sure what to title. Not sure how to put this into words.
When he is thrusting and he pulls out for a minute, What is your physical and emotional response?
If he "teases" you when he is out for that minute-What does it mean to you for him to "tease" you? etc?
Is thrusting in IC a voluntary response? Or is there or (does it have) an aspect of it also at the same time being a physical response that is not voluntary?
JS

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I don't understand why you keep asking these same kinds of questions over and over. If you read the answers, then you'll understand that no one can tell you how YOU will feel if and when you ever get into a sexual relationship. Everyone is different, everyone feels different things.
It's obvious that you've never been sexually active. If you had been, you would know that women don't examine their physical and emotional feelings every moment during sex.
When he is thrusting and he pulls out for a moment, my physical and emotional response doen't react at all, because it's all part of what we're doing. I'm not thinking about what my response is, I'm enjoying being with my partner.
Everything a person does sexually is either voluntary, or NOT voluntary. It depends on many things.....and all those things are different for every person involved in a sexual relationship.
The only way you will ever know what YOU will feel during sex is to become sexually active, and find out for yourself. No one else can tell you what you will think or feel, or how you will react.
Women are not scientists, and they don't analyze each and everything that happens during sex, they just ENJOY it.
I'm not trying to be mean to you, but these questions you are asking can't be answered by anyone but you. If you're not sexually active, you don't know the answers. When you become sexually active, you will know what YOUR responses are to all these questions.
Dakine hit the nail on the head when she said "Women are not scientists, and they don't analyze each and everything that happens during sex, they just ENJOY it."
Please read to the end everyone that is responding to me- (hurt, etc. frustrated at not understand me.
I am sorry if it appears that i am asking the same thing over and over but i am not. if you could see my face you would see that I am not. If you want to know my background i will inform privately by private email. Again i am not asking to be asking and I know that people are different. But it is very helpful in receiving a verbal response through here. I am not going to give details on this type of forum about me. I realize everyone is different but that is not what i am seeking to understand among other things. The difference factor is not the "issue".
I have gotten some good helpful etc responses on here. And i have benefit from the responses regardless of... That have "helped' me tremendously in resolving the confusion.
I am sorry if i appear to be analyzing.
Judith
Judith, WHY are you asking these questions? You say that it helps you understand but WHY are you trying to understand this? What drives you to post all these questions? You don't need to post personal information here to answer that.
As the others have said, you are asking questions that have no easy answers and can't be analysed easily. I may as well ask you "What does it feel like to eat food? What foods do you like best? Why do you like the taste of these foods? What do you feel while you are eating these foods that you like? What do you feel if you cannot eat these foods? What does it feel like to be hungry? Why do you feel hungry?"
Some things can't be described easily and certainly cannot be analysed and understood by someone that doesn't do it themselves. As I have said before, the best answer to many of your questions is to do it yourself. I suggest that you learn to masturbate and explore your own body. That way you will atleast have some idea of what these sensations and desires will feel like.
I will not give details on the board. I explain in the response to dakine as to why the ...... about why the seeking to.resolve the confusion...... See the reply to dakine post in response to mine.
Judith
Far be it from me to answer for the Mrs., but her reactions now are different than back then whenever I temporarily pulled out.
She & I enjoy the deeper grinding, no matter what the position. We're boring, lol, so anyway...
She didn't understand, when we first started as a romantic couple anyway, that I oftentimes 'pause' or even 'pull out' just to get better control of myself. I'm a typical guy that doesn't have the best control in the world anymore like I use to when I was younger. She got frustrated whenever I did this, but after she & I kinda talked it over a few years ago, she's been just fine with it. In fact, she doesn't lose any excitement whatsoever simply because she knows whats going on now and that my pull outs are for HER benefit.
Just more proof that communication is SUCH a key to enjoying...it really is!
May not be the answer you're looking for on in your posts here, but there you have it anyway. :)
C H A R A C T E R
Judith, there are some things that
IMO, this is your first post that I am at a loss for words, because the feelings happen so naturally and usually, I don't realize until it's over that 'hey, he teased me and it felt great', or "gee, that thrusting felt sooo good". So to equate words specific to the moment of him 'teasing' is hard.
I found these MBs last year after returning to the world of sex after a 9 year absence. As a 40ish female, I was amazed as to how intense the sex was now compared to over 10-20 years ago (it was good then, but it's GREAT now). I began writing purely out of curiosity if other females could describe their Orgasms. You should have read the lambasting I got for that one - everyone said don't analyze, just enjoy it. However, IMO, I was more curious than analyzing. I wanted to know if these feelings were unique to me or were known to the whole female word. Plus being a female who hadn't "felt" an O before, I wanted to know if it got better/more intense. I encourage you to continue to write here if you have the need. Don't apologize for anything you ask because curiosity is a hard thing to conquer.
IMO, those who have enjoyed wonderful sex for a long time forget the simple pleasures of experiencing great sex for the first time and all the "Ahh" and amazement that comes with it. Don't let them discourage you!
Thank you for the response. Yes that helps or "helps".
How does she, when you did, let you know that she wanted you back in -what sign did you see in her while it was happening?
Judiths
Thank you so much for your response.
JS-sjudma
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