Women/ Men and Orgasm's
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| Tue, 01-04-2005 - 7:38am |
Do most women have multiple orgasms?
Do most women need direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm?
Is it normal to take a little longer for aa woman to orgasm than a man?
I guess the reason I am asking all of this is because I am not sure if I have ever had a multiple orgasm. I do have very intense orgasms during intercourse with direct clitoral stimulation. Sometimes when the g-spot is stimulated along with clitoral stimulation and intercourse the orgasm feels as though it comes in waves. Each sensation getting larger and larger until the final big orgasm. Does that make sense? Is that multiple orgasms?
Also, do most women need to have direct stimulation of the clitoris to have orgasm. I have never been able to have an orgasm by just "being on top" or from the g-spot alone. I have to have clitoral stimulation as well. Is this normal? I also have gotten spoiled by my vibrator and like to use it on my clitoris during intercourse instead of having the guy rub my clitoris. I can have orgasm easily though if a guy manually rubs my clitoris before intercourse, just not during, because it seems as if I need more pressure or something to have an orgasm.
Also, I take an anti-depressent and sometimes I think it takes longer for me to have an orgasm. If I try it by myself I am usually pretty quick but during sex it takes longer. I think I may even have some type of performance anxiety myself! Like I expect it to happen sooner and when it doesn't then it just makes it take even longer. Do most women orgasm quickly? Sometimes when this happens my guy is holding out for me to have an orgasm, "pleaser", but then he goes limp because of overstimulation, condom has de-sensitized him, etc..........is that normal too for a guy to go limp and not be able to orgasm because of the condom or from having intercourse for too long with a condom on?
I guess I am just hoping that I am normal and all!
;O)
Any suggestions, help is appreciated!

Do most women have multiple orgasms? Some women do, some women don't and some women never have orgasms.
For starters, there is NO such thing as "normal" when it comes to human sexuality. Whatever you're like, that's normal for you. It may not be normal for anyone else, but it is for you. Don't even try to compare yourself to anyone else.
If being like 80% of women can be considered normal, then that's what you are. Most women need clitoral stimulation, because the clitoris is your REAL sexual organ, not your vagina. With the exception of the "g" spot, there's very little feeling inside the vagina. Most of us LIKE intercourse, but very few have orgasms from intercourse alone.
Multiple, shmultiple....stop trying to analyze what's happening. If you're enjoying it, then it's GOOD! It sounds like you're having strong orgasms...but not necessarily multiple orgasms. So what? How would you like to be one of the women who's NEVER had an orgasm? (and there are many of them!)
As humpdaddy suggested, have you tried being on top? That's always given me multiples...I have one, I stop for a moment or two, and then start again, and have another one. That can continue as long as I have the strenghth to go on.
Antidepressants are known to dull or even kill the libido....so if you're taking them, and your sexual experiences are the way you describe them, I'd say you're very lucky!
Again, stop analyzing it. Just concentrate on what's happening, and enjoy it. It doesn't matter if you're the same as other women, or different. What matters is that you enjoy the experience, and it seems like you are. Orgasms aren't necessarily the measure of good sex......orgasms don't make sex good......good sex makes orgasms happen.