to the women not sure what to put here

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to the women not sure what to put here
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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 11:47pm

how do i do this... (I am afraid i am going to seek "help" on something I have already sent for.. so .. )

I am struggling

the other men post goes with this one...

and the two response on this forum have said that a man can have sex 4 or 5 times in one day which confirmed something I saw about men-the man having sex more than one in one day.. Is that because of his thinking about it more than 30 times a day... Because a woman is slow to warm up and she sometimes has no desire to do it... It is said that a woman can do things to help a man since he needs a release more often than not in a marital or long term partner ship.Is this true? becasue men are physical beings whereas women come at it from a emotional one.. How do you as a woman cope with it being he -women have been frustrated that men needs sex more than women."sex .... - It is said that a woman needs to find ways..help him release since she is not one to think about it all the time like he does since it is a given with him because of men being physical,etc. and come at things in a physical way...

I felt mixed emotions when good and confusing emotions seeing that at least two siad that they do it more than once a day and week....

The two women on here who have responsed that they do it 3 or 4 times a week... how do you enable yourself to do it that much .... how do i say this... when you might not want it? etc?

I guess all for now.

Judith

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 1:03am

All men are different. All women are different. Very few men can have sex 4-5 times a day. Most people don't have time for that. Most people have other things to do besides sex. Men may think of sex often, but that doesn't mean they have sex often. Thoughts are not actions. It makes no difference if they are in long term relationships or no relationship. If a man doesn't have a partner, he can masturbate. So can a woman.

Women can have sex as many times as men. Some women like sex that often, some women don't. The average for couples to have sex is 3 times a week. MANY couples have sex more, and some have sex only once a month. Everyone is different, and has different needs.

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 2:48am

Hi, Judith.

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 8:34am

>>>The two women on here who have responsed that they do it 3 or 4 times a week... how do you enable yourself to do it that much .... how do i say this... when you might not want it? etc?<<<

I never have sex if I don't want it. I have sex several times a week - often more than 3-4 times, and every time I want it. I might not want it when we first start out on foreplay, but it doesn't take long to get in the mood. It's about making the effort, and receiving the pleasure that makes you want it.

 


 


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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:25am

I posted this reply under your question to the thread *God unfair to men* but will repost it here.


Sex is not just about intercourse, sex is about everything, from the first kiss, to foreplay, intercourse, afterplay to cuddle afterwards.

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 10:45am

"The two women on here who have responsed that they do it 3 or 4 times a week... how do you enable yourself to do it that much .... how do i say this... when you might not want it? etc?"

How does someone not want sex? This is such a foreign concept to me. You may not be wholly into it for whatever reason, but how exactly does that translate into not wanting it? If your SO is aroused and desires sex, what is the big issue about satisfying them in some manner if you possibly can? How is it, that you don't want to? I have been having sex for over 30 years, and I never get tired or bored with it. I never NOT want to, even if I'm not particularly in the mood. My husband and I are very empathetic when it comes to arousal. We know how it feels, so we try and be compassionate in that arena. If my husband is horny, there's no way that I will turn him away....I can and will do something to help him relieve himself....and he does the same.

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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 9:24pm

I personally have never known a man who had sex 4-5 times a day. Who has that kind of time to devote to sex? :) DH and I used to do it twice in one day, occasionally, but that's it. Now, we manage 4-5 times a week.

I actually have a higher sex drive than my DH, but there are times when I am not really in the mood at first. However, he's my husband, and I enjoy giving him pleasure, and he always makes it worth the effort, so I don't mind doing it for him. He shows me the same consideration. Neither of us is forceful about it, and we both feel free to say "no" if we are not feeling well, or are too tired, or whatever.

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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 2:22pm
Well, I would be happy to introduce you to my DH. We used to regularly have sex multiple times a day when we first became intimate. Now, it might happen 3 times.