womens' sex etiquette?

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womens' sex etiquette?
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 1:03am

Ladies, is there some sort of sex etiquette where the girl compliments a man's package--or specifically comments on his size--as part of making him feel good, regardless of her real feelings? Or do you only say it when that's what you think?

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 1:38am

Why would you say ANYTHING if you didn't really mean it? Why do you think you have to say things to make a man "feel good"? If a man is insecure about himself, nothing you could say would make him "feel good"! If a man isn't insecure, he doesn't need to be told anything....your actions should make him feel good.

There is no "sex etiquette" about what to say.....you say what you feel, or you shouldn't say anything.

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Registered: 06-08-2005
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 8:54am

I don't know--you know little white lies like "yes dear I love that dress on you---can we please go now?" That kind of thing. But thanks for your reply.
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 9:13am

I agree with Greenteabag.


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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 10:01am
I agree. That's the way it should be, but I can assure you, you are in the minority.
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 10:27am
Yes, I'm sure I am in the minority which is something I don't and probably never will understand.

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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 10:33am
I have to agree with GTB and Tish. I wouldn't say anything at all unless he expressed some sort of concern about it. I just don't see any point in lying to build up someone's ego though because then, you have to maintain that lie and that just gets exhausting.


Edited 7/3/2005 10:36 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 1:36pm

Hi kulthur: (From a guy's point of view; 4 inch erect penis)

A guy will KNOW his penis measurement! I learned early on im my sexual adventures to add SEXUAL TECHNIQUES to hep please a woman (and make me competitve with other guys). It has helped to study cunnilingus techniques, manual sex techniques, massages (sensual and regular)AND foot reflexology.

If a woman were to TRY and compliment me on my package, I would KNOW it was NOT the truth.

IMHO, UNLESS a guy has a well endowed package, it is a waste of time to TRY and compliment him on his package.

Mac

 

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 4:25pm
Being HONEST is being in the minority? IF that was true, it would be a scary thought. I don't know about you and your friends, but my friends and I are honest, and if they weren't, they wouldn't be my friends.
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Registered: 06-08-2005
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 4:43pm

First, thank you for your responses--they make me happy.

Secondly, it doesn't seem clear that I'm not talking about when you Ask your partner about your own size, but if When they say it, uninvited, they mean what they say, or they just say it because it's what they think they ought to say--for example something you all pick up in your girl-talk sessions. I know the way I am: a woman has a beautiful pair of breasts, or even beautiful arms, and I just blurt it out like a dork. But of course as a heterosexual male I have no real perspective on this particular matter, and I just had a fling the other day with an enthusiastic young lady, so I ask.

Thirdly, where is iphillipa when you'd like an opinion. That girl has exactly the kind of attitude about things I look for, so I'd be curious for your thoughts, O miss iphillipa.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 5:57pm

>>IMHO, UNLESS a guy has a well endowed package, it is a waste of time to TRY and compliment him on his package.<<

It sounds like you believe that size is the only positive quality that a penis can have. From this woman's perspective, that's so not true.

I've complimented men on hardness and looks before. I've also complimented smaller men with the fact that due to their perfect size, I can let loose and enjoy myself without worrying about impaling myself.

Generally speaking, I bet I could find something positive about any penis and compliment accordingly.

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