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| Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:18pm |
Not long ago my wife and I were watching the Playboy channel and there was a woman dressed like a snake coming down a tree and she "attacked" another woman. She kissed the woman and did oral sex with her. When it was over my wife was all over me and we had great sex. I asked her if she wanted sex with a woman and she said no way. She did admit to me weeks later that womens breast do turn her on though. I have told her she could try a woman if she wanted but she said she is not interested. I have noticed she does look at pretty women when they walk past us. She checks them out from head to toe.
My question is do other women do these same things and it means nothing or do you think she has hidden desires? We have been married 20 + years and I am confused.
My question is do other women do these same things and it means nothing or do you think she has hidden desires? We have been married 20 + years and I am confused.

Hey mrdew!
Conversations like this among women that I've read from other boards actually did reveal that some of those ladies were looking at the more than any other body part, namely the eyes. Something about those eyes that attracted them when they, as they admitted, admired other women.
Now yes, they did mention admiring other parts, but it was mostly the eyes and THEN the other parts afterwards. As far as your wife goes though, have you considered the idea (risky as it may be) of letting her know that you "thought" noticed the way she does look at some other women?...you know, just to see what her reaction would be?
You see, if she accepts that conversation, great. If she doesn't and then once again denies everything, then I'd leave it be and not bring it up again...don't make her uncomfortable.
Nice of you to offer her the chance to be with another woman, but even that hasn't always avoided ill-effects for many couples out there who've tried/permitted it. I encourage you to give that more thought, never hurts. And congrats on 20+ years! Awesome! :)
C H A R A C T E R
I don't think you have anything to be confused about.
Believe what your wife tells you.
For me personally, seeing a woman receiving oral pleasure is something I can relate to. But it would be less about WHO is doing the giving and more about relating to the feelings of pleasure the woman is enjoying.
If the woman had been doing another woman with a strap on, THAT, I couldn't relate to at all.
And I can appreciate beauty in all it's forms but that doesn't mean that I want to sexualize it and act on it.
Why would she lie? You seem very open to it...so I'd believe her.
As for me, I've seen enough porn with woman on woman to know that it does nothing at all for me. I have seen women masturbating, giving and receiving manual, oral and kissing another woman; and I don't get aroused even a little bit. Now, a man doing the same thing to a woman and/or two men having sex, yes, that arouses me(plenty of male parts). I guess when I project it's emotional as well as physical. It reflects my reality. Although I find women to be sexy and beautiful, I'm not sexually attracted to women in the least. I don't exactly know what that means, though. ;-)
Edited 5/28/2005 5:10 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam