Woo Hoo -- I got to have Sex for Brunch!

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Woo Hoo -- I got to have Sex for Brunch!
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 12:18pm

DH is home from work because he injured his knee. Luckily, he's not in too much pain, just a lot of swelling. Well, you know what happens when the doctor tells you to stay home and keep it up ...

any body else get lucky in the middle of the day lately?



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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 5:39pm
You lucky, lucky she-devil.... Have a sausage for me.... I figure, what are friends for...



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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 12:38am

if your husband came home for lunch would you be the appetizer or just fix him lunch ?
when he comes home from work at the end of the day would you be waiting with nothing on except your apron or would you have dinner ready ? You don't have to answer these questions.
My girlfriend has never done none of these things for me except have a meal ready, which I, really appreciate that she had dinner ready, but, sometimes I, wished she would have had more on her mind than just dinner.

She never surprizes me by coming home for lunch with the idea of getting LUCKY.
The real question is what would you suggest, I, do when she comes home from work expecting me to have dinner ready ? Do, I, keep having dinner ready? what is really on my mind is to seduce her when she comes home. I, know she would be mad if I, was standing there with nothing on when she walked through the door. any suggestions? I, have ideas about getting LUCKY, lets say without making an appointment.

Why is it okay if a woman had ideas to do these things and not a guy ?

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 7:08am

If you have never tried this, how do you know she would be mad? Perhaps she is a bit shy also, or doesn't know how you would feel about coming home to an appetizer before dinner. Many people get stuck in a rut of living a life that they think should be a certain way (from conditioning through family, society, etc.).

My suggestion would be to have dinner ready and be prepared to seduce her at the same time. Do you have a crock pot? Perhaps you could have something in the oven that will be ready in half an hour. Obviously, you want a meal that doesn't require your last minute attention. Then you could let her know that you have a way for the two of you to keep busy while you're waiting for dinner to be done.

Do you ever initiate romantic lunches with her? Do you make her feel sexy -- all of the time? I know I have continued to be more comfortable with my DH during the 16 years we have been together. He has always made me feel sexy, special, etc., and that goes a long way to me wanting to initiate sexual things with him. I also have the time available to me (that I didn't have previously) that allows me to think about meeting him for lunch in a sexy outfit, or taking the day (spur of the moment) to play with him. The more demands that you have in life, the harder it is to find the time (or energy) to put into sexual play.

What was your girlfriend like prior to the two of you living together? Did she surprise you sexually then? I do believe people continue to develop sexually throughout their lives (which is great because it keeps things from getting boring), but some people are more adventurous than others. I know that I "surprised" my DH when he was my BF and we weren't living together, so I guess it has a lot to do with who I am. He never really surprises me, but he loves being surprised.



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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:17am

No, I've never tried, I, just know she would be mad.
I, know there is more to a relationship than just sex. Yes, I do try to make her feel sexy all the time, her reply is something like ya right. Prior to living together she never surprised me sexually, should that have been the hint that she never would. I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE SEX FOR BRUNCH. I try to have dinner ready when she comes home, help out with laundry, etc. She knows I, would like to have sex more often, than 2-4 times a month.

I, surprised her with expensive jewelry and chocolate body paint one Valentines Day, while we were on cruise to the caribbean, her reply," we'll have to try this later". Well, now later is over 5 years, I, guess later is still coming. I'm out of suggestions I need help.

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:34am

No, I have not tried, I, know she would be mad or say something like not now maybe later and never would probably not come. I, know there is more to a relationship than just sex. I, try to have dinner ready when she comes home, help out with the laundry, etc. Prior to living together she never surprised me sexually, that should have been the hint, that she never would.

I, try to make her feel sexy all the time, her reply would be like "ya right".
She know's I would like to have sex more often than 2-4 times a MONTH.

one little example, I, surprised her with expensive jewelry and chocolate body paint on a Valentines Day while the two of us were on a cruise in the caribbean. Her reply was thank you and we'll have to try this later. Well later is now about 5 years later and later is still coming. I, surprised her with the cruise

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:57am

I often go home for lunch break so that the SO and I can have some fun the only problem is after that I dont have time to actually eat a meal lol

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:04am
Ok, I may be totally off the mark here, but here goes. It sounds like she's shy about initiating. I think you need to romance her. It's not about expensive jewelry. It's the little things that mean the most. Stop on your way home and buy one flower, or when you're walking around a store, you see some little trinket thing that you know she'd like, so you buy it for her. Go out for a walk and you be the first to reach for her hand. Stop and get an ice cream. Prepare dinner together. Romance does not equal sex.



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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 12:56pm

Well, last friday I didn't get sex in the afternoon, but I did get it first thing in the morning along with a nice shower together, then again that night. Woo Hoo is exactly what I said, twice in one day :)

A couple of weeks ago, we did have sex in the late afternoon. We were laying on the couch together under a blanket watching a movie (well trying to watch a movie). We got each other so hot that we had to do it right there and then. It was so HOT!

We haven't had the chance to be together since friday night, but he is coming over tonight and I can't wait.

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:12pm

"I, surprised her with expensive jewelry and chocolate body paint"

So how did she feel about the jewelry? Try to put more effort into things that make her feel good about herself, not things that she can necessarily show off.

"her reply would be like "ya right""

Maybe she is shy about her body or doesn't have a good self-image, but there are also people who just have a difficult time accepting a compliment. My DH compliments me all the time, and until recently, I would react similarly. Finally, we made a pact that I had to accept his compliment without saying anything derogatory. Perhaps she doesn't understand how it makes you feel when she says things like that. Let her know if you consider it an insult -- after all, you love her and the way she looks, right?

"She know's I would like to have sex more often than 2-4 times a MONTH."

Is this something that the two of you have talked about? What is her reaction? Many people have differing libidos, but that doesn't mean their sex life has to be bad. Perhaps if you were only having sex 2-4 times a month, but it was exciting sex, you would feel differently. I think it's important for couples to find a compromise that works for both of them. Also, many couples plan a date night (or sex night) every week. It may not seem romantic, but when things aren't going right in the relationship, it's a good way to find your way back to each other.



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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:53am
Yes, my sister and her bf stayed the weekend with my bf and I... and when they left the house to go run an errand we had ourselves an afternoon Delight!! Yummy too!

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