Work Relationship

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Work Relationship
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Thu, 05-24-2007 - 8:37pm

I have come into a relationship that is sinfully sweet. We're both happily married, he's 25, I'm 32. We worked rather closely together until recently when I got a different position in the company. We are now located very near each other, but see each other only about 1x a day (and we have to go out of our way to do that). We got along quite well, as friends, before, but something changed when I moved. He had indicated a slight attraction for me before, but it wasn't something that I paid much attention to, as I have learned, over the years, how to be 'friends' with a guy without letting it go further. Once I moved, we started IM'ing each other and it, rather quickly, turned sexy (VERY sexy).

Of late, I've been feeling the strain of my dh's & my f/t jobs, our 4 kids, my f/t school, and all the activities that ensue from all of that. Honestly, I'd been feeling quite like I wanted to just leave it all. The IM'ing was a refreshing treat. In the middle of the day, I would get the feeling I was sexy and alive. When I left work, those feelings carried over. It has been very rejuvinating and, honestly, uplifting. My attitude toward life has improved because I've realized that I'm not dead. I'm not some 'older' woman (he says to me "You are not old!!") that is spent and slowly disappearing. I have tried to channel those sexual arousals into my husband and it has actually REALLY improved our relationship.

Both he and I have talked about how neither of us want anything to actually BECOME of this IM'ing. Neither of us are willing to risk either our own lives or each other's lives for our own pleasures. We care about each other very much and don't want anyone to get hurt. It got to a point where we both had to back up and say "Ok, this is crazy, we're out of control", and we're trying to go back to the way it was before, when we were being friends, harassing each other and chatting about life-things. Trouble is, neither of us really want it to. Our conversation keeps veering toward sexy things... It's terrible! (in such a good way!!)

I don't really know how to take this relationship down a notch. We really need to, but it's so fun when we get started. It's very addicting for both of us. But we have GOT to take it down a notch. My g/f says that it will mellow and become boring. It will become old (this has been happening for about 2+ weeks). But I don't quite know how to feel about that... I don't really WANT it to. I want to keep our relationship on a 'slightly flirty.. slightly arousing' level, but every time we talk, it just kinda goes...

Is it possible to keep our relationship on that level without going beyond (and if it is, how?), or is this something that we simply need to distance ourselves and kill off the whole thing? :-(

TIA

Edited 5/24/2007 9:00 pm ET by dancing_on_tables




Edited 5/24/2007 9:01 pm ET by dancing_on_tables

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 9:35pm
Welcome to the board Ann. Thanks for sharing your story with us.


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