WOT and Grinding

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Registered: 05-13-2004
WOT and Grinding
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 5:30pm
I'm pretty new sex while my guy is much more experienced. I've been reading about WOT on this board and it has helped me a lot. We haven't had sex that way yet, only missionary, but I want to try it when I see him again to spice things up. This may me a crazy question, but what exactly is grinding? I've read a lot that the woman should "grind in" to her man when she's on top. I know to get on my knees and straddle him. Am I supposed to move my body up and down so his penis slides in and out or should the penis stay in and I'm just moving my hips? Does anyone ever lean over their guy or just stay straight up and back? I just don't want to go into this completely clueless. This board has already helped me so much! It's so great to have a place to come to and ask these awkward questions! Thanks!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 12-23-2005 - 6:59pm

Don't move up and down, save the thrusting action for other positions.


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 12-24-2005 - 12:24am

Very good advice from Tish. By "grinding", you'll be rubbing your clitoris against him, which one of the easiest ways of having an orgasm. Bouncing up and down will only last for a few minutes, because your legs will give out. Let him do the thrusting when he's on top. Every one does it different, whatever is easiest and most comfortable for them.

Also, don't worry about his "experience".....which doesn't mean a whole lot. Experience doesn't equate knowledge, and even tho he might know more variations and tricks than you do, every new partner is a new learning experience. Everyone has different likes and dislikes, and everyone has different "hot spots". When you're with someone new, you ask what they like and don't like, and he should be asking you the same questions. What works for someone else might not work for you. It's all about communication. You ask if something feels good......you ask if he likes this, or does he like that. Don't worry about being "clueless"....because together you'll figure it all out.

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 12-24-2005 - 10:25am

Hi Tish.


Thanks so much for the link to the article.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-24-2005 - 3:22pm
Just a little tidbit to add onto Tish's great description... IMO it's better if he does move his hips a bit rather than you doing all the moving.
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Registered: 12-24-2005
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 3:13am
What you ask is valid. What you seek is genuine and natural. Very quick fyi's :
Your clitoris is outside your vagina. Your man's penis is inside. Your physical orgasms are result of.... yup, physical contact. You may orgasm due to your mind's state- which works well. Complete, overwhelming, tear-jerking, undescribable orgasms come from both in unison. I believe "grind in" is slang for your clitoris stimulating itself with your help...because- obviously- your partner has no clue about your body....and thinks what he does is great for you when it involves nothing your hidden and oft ignored organ needs... He knows his dick--- time for you to educate him as well as you know yours.
Grinding is equivalent to waking up with a pillow, folds of blankets, or whatever is nearest you stimulating yourself- which normally ends with you taking care of you exactly how you like....
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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 7:21am

because- obviously- your partner has no clue about your body....and thinks what he does is great for you when it involves nothing your hidden and oft ignored organ needs...


Wow, I'm sorry you aren't fortune enough to have had an experience partner.


My SO however does know my body (and my mind) very well and knows exactly what to do to satisfy my needs.

 

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 9:33am

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Registered: 05-13-2004
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 9:57am
Thanks to everyone for their advice. I definately think I have a better understanding of WOT. I'm actually pretty excited about trying it out next weekend. Thanks again and Merry Christmas!