WOT - Totally Stupid Question

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WOT - Totally Stupid Question
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 1:02pm

Hello everyone,

This is a completely stupid question but I would just like to hear what others think. When in the WOT position I like to "grind" alot - along with the normal up and down motion. The grinding is awesome for me since it really hits my G-spot and can bring me to O if I go long enough. My question...is this motion as satisfying for the guy or is the up and down much better for him? I don't usually grind long becuz I am not sure if it is as pleasing to him...

Sorry it sounds silly...

Thanks!!

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Registered: 01-24-2006
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 1:52pm
First of all, I don't think this is a silly question at all. And in my experience, it is as pleasing to the man, if not more than the up and down. Rather than go in and out, he gets to stay put, and he's getting plenty of stimulation from the grinding. Plus, men like to know you are getting satisfied, so it helps him to know that you are getting what you want.
That has been my experience anyway, and I grind to, up and down does nothing for me.
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 2:18pm

A question unasked is a stupid question!

Of course he enjoys the grinding motion, too. It's just a different motion than in and out. But he's still feeling the friction. This motion is typically enough to drive my DH over the edge!

WOT is all about YOU anyway. This is a great way to get more clitoral stimulation while controlling the depth, angle and speed of penetration. Trust me, he enjoys both the sensation AND the visual stimulation.

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Registered: 02-27-2006
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 2:34pm
Both up and down and grinding are pleasing to me. My GF will usually do more grinding then up and down to stimulate herself so she has an orgasm. Find the right balance for you and who you are with. I like the variety in the motions. Sex should not be about what works for me or him but works for both of us. Have fun experimenting and Im sure you will find a balance you both enjoy very much.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 3:50pm

There are TWO of you in this scenario. You stop doing what you enjoy because you're afraid he's NOT enjoying it? When he's doing HIS thing, I'm sure he's not worrying about whether or not YOU're enjoying it!

WOT is usually all about the woman.....and most men enjoy SEEING the pleasure she's getting. Will it "get him off"? Maybe, maybe not......that's got nothing to do with it. If it doesn't, when you've had enough, then you switch to what WILL "get him off"!

Don't worry so much about what's pleasing him......again, there are TWO people involved, and you're BOTH supposed to be enjoying. You aren't there just for HIS pleasure are you?

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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 5:15pm

I enjoy both, but I suppose that I'd say that I enjoy the up and down more. But it's not as simple as that, because the grinding motion done in the right way is just as good as the up and down - and vice versa. When she's on top it's really all about her. I can't really control the motions or the sensations because she's in control. I'm just there to go along with the ride and enjoy whatever comes my way, and I do like it because I CAN just lie there and enjoy it all without much work on my behalf (call me lazy sometimes!). If I desperately want to pound in and out of her we'll move into a another position where I can take control and do what I want. Swings and roundabouts. She gets to do what she wants and I get to do what I want and together we have great sex!

Edited to add: And BTW, I LOVE her being on top because she usually cums that way. It is extremely arousing to have her grind away faster and faster until she reaches her orgasm. It's very very sexy. So stop worrying about it. If he wasn't enjoying it he'd tell you or switch positions.




Edited 5/8/2006 5:17 pm ET by westridge2001