Would I have been rude?
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Would I have been rude?
| Fri, 08-27-2004 - 7:42am |
I'm a guy. While standing in line at a cashier's station in a store yesterday, I noticed that the woman in front of me had very nice legs...and a denim miniskirt to show them off. I was thinking that if our eyes met, I would say something like: "Nice legs!". The opportunity didn't present itself, and I probably wouldn't have done it anyway, not wanting to appear rude or threatining in a world where almost anything can be interpreted as harrassment. I wasn't trying to pick her up. I just wanted to complement her. Would I have been wrong to make such a comment?

I would think you were trying to hit on me. But as long as I didn't feel like my safety was in jeopardy, I would walk away on those tight legs with a smile. I love when I notice men checking me out at the grocery store.
I think sometimes the difference between a 'that was a little bit creepy' and 'that was nice' is the wording. Pretty inside of nice. Can't think of other examples. Also prefacing things with "I know this is random.." or "this might sound weird..." kind of lets the other person know that you realize it might sound weird and that you almost didn't say it.
Sara
Leticia
Always better, IMHO, to be presented as a "gentleman" than as someone who only notices certain things. We just can't control how others will view us no matter how innocent we ourselves know we are. Just my two cents on it.
Actually, I've been complimented myself by a lady here or there. The usual "do you work out?" line and all. In fact, RAOFLMBO!!!, I remember a time when Mrs. Para & I were shopping in the MegaMall in the Twin Cities and I was complimented for how nice I made my shirt look or something to that affect. Because the Mrs. & I are a mixed marriage, that compliment came from someone who didn't know that my wife was actually in the area, DESPITE my wedding ring she didn't hesitate to compliment me.
Oooooooooooooooh MY o my o my did Mrs. Para step in from allllllllllllll the way across that particular store to say, "I did good at picking that out for him........SIGH.......
........DIDN'T I?!!!!!
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
Until every time I turned around in the store, he was 10 feet behind me, staring at my legs. Now *that* creeped me out a tad. I think that was probably my first exposure to a *real* leg man, lol. The following and staring was rude, the compliment was not.
Another time, I had a man ask me who was the maker of my denim mini skirt. Puzzled, I said "I'm not sure..." and he said "Well, I'd like to write them a thank you note." Now *that* was a really nice way of saying he thought I looked good, without being a lech about it. Maybe that could be your new line, lol.