Would this make you hot or not?????

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Would this make you hot or not?????
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Fri, 06-24-2005 - 8:34pm
I have been married for 21 years to a woman that still makes me feel like a teenager in the bedroom. So what is the problem you must be thinking???? Well lets just say we are creatures of routine and I want to try and shake things up a bit. I was wondering what you gals would do if you found your hubby of 20 years masturbating, when in all this time you have yet to find him doing this activity....or what would your thoughts be if you were in bed with your hubby and you felt a certain movement in the sheets that left no doubt as to what is happening, maybe you would hear a deep breath or two as well. What would you do??? Would you be wanting to turn the night light on and watch or maybe rollover and do a little exploration mission of your own.....and take matters into your own hands if you know what I mean... I am a little nervous about trying something like this since we have never been there done that before if you know what I mean. She has always been sort of conservative in the bedroom. My thoughts are that this might take our intimacy to a new level and turn the heat up in the bedroom a little more. But if it backfires I will be sort of embarrassed. This might seem easy to do but for me it would be something totally out of the ordinary. I realize that timing is quite critical to get the results that I am hoping for.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 9:04pm
How about spooning against her instead, and use your hand to help get yourself aroused and erect against her? That would leave her with no doubt about what you are doing and it's not as quite as unexpected as masturbating on your own. Of course, if she responds, you could roll over onto your back and continue to masturbate.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 9:26pm
You know your wife the best, do you think she would be offended or get mad about it?

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 9:46pm

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Ever touched her in public? When sitting next to/across from her reach out and tweak her breast? As a female, that ONE move got me thinking about us in ways I've never thought. And it opened a door of communication I've never had before (even in a 17 yr marriage).

I would say try to play out anything that your mind can think of and see what doors it opens for you both.

In my 17 yr marriage, talking about sex never led to anything "new or wild"; yet with current man, we talk about sex weekly and try something/place new at least once a month. I wish you luck!

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 11:36pm

Have you heard the saying "when in doubt, don't!" I think you're in doubt about her reaction. Unfortunately, no one here knows your wife, or how she would react to your plan. I would hope that she KNOWS you masturbate, like all men do.....but maybe she has no interest in seeing it, or getting involved in it. Particularly if she's "conservative" sexually.

Maybe you should talk to her about "livening" things up in the bedroom....and suggest that she help you masturbate, or if you think that she could handle it.....join you in doing it.

You have a 50/50 chance of her loving it, or hating it. If she loves it, you're home free....but what will you do if she hates it? I think it's better to talk about it first. You could always just tell her that it's a fantasy of yours.....that she watch you do it. That would give her a chance to tell you in advance that she's not interested in seeing it, and save you both a lot of embarassment. Good Luck!

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Registered: 05-29-2005
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:26pm
TO ME THAT WOULD BE REALLY REALLY SEXY TO SEE MY SO DO THAT! BUT TO OTHER PEOPLE IT IS NOT SEXY AT ALL! SO I REALLY THINK THE BEST IDEA IS TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HER BEING INVOLED IN SOMETHING LIKE THAT. IF YOUR NOT SURE HOW SHE WILL REACT TO YOU DOING SOMETHIN LIKE THAT!